Massages are a fantastic way to get closer as a couple and to enjoy yourselves, of course. It is also a pleasant way to express your love and connection to someone. Think about this as sort of a gift you can give to your partner without having to spend any money. So, it is better than something else you can give them except for maybe something like…, you get the idea, wink*.)
As a matter of fact, a lot of people fantasize about their partner giving them a massage. Sometimes they might even drop subtle hints (or not too slight) about it. After all, it makes you feel great, so who doesn’t like it?
Before you become an expert on the subject, you certainly need to learn how to do it the right way. The good thing about it is, you and your partner can learn how to give a proper massage, so you can both take turns. Trust me, it is a win-win situation for the two of you wink*
The first thing you need to do is to prepare the mood by setting a soothing ambience. This includes getting some nice and soft lighting, calming music, getting oils and maybe talking to them softly during the massage. You can also add some aromatherapy oils to the mix as this could be something your partner will enjoy.
As for the touch, you need to use very slow strokes and always keep touching your partner’s skin. Try making all the movements towards the heart to increase blood circulation. Using the proper massage oils will ensure skin to skin contact. Remember, lubrication is always the way to go, no matter what you are doing. You shouldn’t try to do deep tissue massage here because they have some serious knots to work through. If so, then you should definitely send them to a qualified massage therapist. This is merely something to relax them and to create a stronger bond between the two of you. It also makes for a very enjoyable and pleasurable experience.
Just as in a relationship, communication is also important in a massage. Don’t be afraid to talk to your partner when you are massaging them, only do not talk too loudly or be a complete chatterbox. After all, this is not the time and place to ask them whether they did the dishes or to tell them you are considering moving overseas for a year. Do ask them if the pressure is ok with them, where they feel you should focus a bit more, and how can you improve the experience.
Try to watch out for them, monitor and be aware of their responses. If they are experiencing pain or are in any way uncomfortable, stop what you are doing right away. This will definitely be a complete mood killer. To avoid this, always do smooth and long strokes. Of course, read your partner as much as you can and let this guide you through the whole thing,
All massages can be a highly sensual and sensitive experience. In what other way can you stimulate so many senses at once? Just take your time and try to have fun. This whole experience should be super fun and bring you closer as a couple. It doesn’t matter if the first few times don’t go as great as you expect it to be. With a little bit of practice, you can definitely improve your technique and it can be as great as you imagine. Just keep trying, remember, practice makes perfect. This makes it even better for the two of you since you don’t really know where this could lead once you are done. They will probably be super relaxed and feeling really sensitive all over, which is great to do some other things… Is anybody complaining?
