No long distance relationship is the same. Well, not any relationship is just like another as well…but you know what I mean wink*. What I’m talking about is, the relationship will depend on how long the partners have been together before separation and what their tastes and activities looked like before. Just like a BDSM initial contract, there are some parts that will need to be added to the piece so you two can have a better idea about how this new relationship will be. These added parts could be something like this:
- How would the two of you talk or communicate? If this is a strict situation, you can put in writing what days and time you will do so. Will this meeting happen through Skype or some other video call service? If you are not that strict, you can put something like “the dominant must let the submissive know they will need to be available for a call 24/12 hours earlier before it happens.”
- During these calls, you can even write the specific activities that will take place. If there are some hard limits or things you are not interested in trying when doing long distance, stipulate it so.
- In the contract you can specify the visits that will occur, assuming you two can visit each other at some point. How often the visits will happen, where and the duration of the visit can all be discussed in the contract. The contract and the clause should include the details, such as who will be paying for the transportation costs, arrangements and where the person will be staying.
- Some masters even would like to include the sub’s behavior during the visit. Do they need to greet them in a certain matter? Should they wear a collar? Is eye contact permitted?
- Depending on your relationship, you can put in writing the submissive should never touch their genitals and orgasm. Others may wish to put a chastity clause, indicating the submissive must be in chastity for a specific length of time and under the master’s control.
