3 Tips for Stress-Free First Time Sex

First time sexual encounters can sometimes be awkward. The uneasiness can happen when you do not know each other very well. If this is the case, then chances are you are not sure what to expect of the sex scene. Thus, your actions might not feel natural. Lack of confidence in yourself and being afraid to express your sexual desires openly can also make it hard to enjoy the experience. All the same, you can do something to eliminate the awkward moments and allow yourself to enjoy the experience as much as possible. Apart from laughing at your awkwardness when having a sexual encounter with someone for the first time, here is what you can do to lessen the discomfort!

1. Don’t skip the foreplay

Foreplay is important during any sexual encounter, more so if you are doing it with a partner for the first time. During foreplay, both of you can reach a common sexual rhythm. It can also help establish your respective preferences when it comes to sexual pleasure. For a first time encounter, foreplay might be longer than usual due to the insecurities you and your partner might still have. During this stage, it would be best to stay away from sex toys and accessories such as orgasm belts or other stimulators. You will have plenty of time for sex games later on once you are comfortable with each other. Mixing nipple clamps and dildos during your foreplay will only distract you from getting to know your partner in an honest way. It is a good idea to engage in sessions of passionate kissing with each other and explore your partner’s body with your bare hands. It is also helpful if you can set up the right atmosphere for a great sex scene.

2. Take it slowly

Give yourself the time to know each other and become comfortable with one another while you are intimate. Even if there is a lot of chemistry between the two of you, this might not come so naturally in the bedroom. It is a good idea to tell your partner about your sexual fantasies and desires. Don’t let them guess too much when it comes to your personal preferences and expectations. It might take some time but it is only going to make your sex life better in the end. If you happen to be into BDSM practices don’t propose edge play for your first time! If your partner is not on the same page as you, then they might not be ready for such a complex experience. But if you have the patience you can lead them on the path of intense sexual pleasure and satisfaction so you can both enjoy amazing orgasms.

3. Stick with what you are comfortable doing

Choosing ‘the path less traveled’ is not a good idea for a first sexual encounter with your new partner. This will only add to the stress and awkwardness both of you might already be feeling. Instead, try to engage in sexual activities familiar to you. Stick with the basic sex toys such as dildos, vibrators or nipple clamps. Don’t dive into the abstract world of roleplays and suspension bondage yet. As hot as these fetishes might seem, they are not advisable for a first time sexual encounter. Not to mention, these require a high level of trust and confidence to be able to enjoy such complex sex scenes with someone. In addition, naughty scenes and kinky fetishes require a strong emotional connection between the players. In truth, some vanilla sex is actually great when you are just starting a relationship!

Take these tips into consideration to help avoid any awkward moments while you are having sex with someone for the first time. So, even if you find yourself in an uncomfortable situation don’t let it ruin your sex drive. In fact, some of the best sexual encounters you will remember forever will be your firsts. Chances are you will look back at them one day and even laugh at all the awkward moments you experienced.