Unlock Your Desires: Up to 90% Off, 100% Privacy Guaranteed, and Discreet Plain Box Shipping!
Your Privacy Guaranteed
FREE DISCREET US SHIPPING on orders over $99

5 BDSM Truths You Should Know About

BDSM stands for bondage and discipline (B&D), dominance and submission (D&S), and sadism & masochism (S&M). It covers a wide variety of practices and comes with an even greater assortment of fans. People who are BDSM enthusiasts can find pleasure in one or all of the aspects included in this category. Although sometimes, they just get inspired by one of the ideas and apply it to their routine without becoming a BDSM practitioner at all. No matter what it is, the attraction to BDSM sexual fantasies is growing and developing into new fetishes as well as styles. Each person has their own understanding of it and their own limits. But certain things about it are not written in books. Here’s what you might want to know about BDSM before you get yourself into it.

1. It doesn’t always involve sex

Sexual intercourse is the most intense aspect of a fantasy, besides an orgasm of course. But when it comes to BDSM, you have many ways to reach a climax and not all of them include physical sex. Some people reach intense sexual satisfaction by experiencing feelings such as pain or humiliation or even orgasm control. The very deep feeling of being under their dominant’s control, or the opposite, being in control of their submissive to such an intimate level can give them more pleasure than any other form of intercourse. Ultimately, it is a personal choice as some people only practice BDSM during foreplay while others do so during sexual intercourse until they reach an orgasm. Then again, some just explore the sensations felt while playing with their partner in a BDSM way.

2. You can always say no

Many people assume being a submissive is all about following orders. While this is the case, you can be sure the orders are only of those you are comfortable with. Remember BDSM is based on mutual consent and respect. So, while you can be comfortable with certain aspects of it, you might not be at ease with others. This is perfectly fine. You should speak your mind to reach a common understanding with your partner because communication is essential for any kind of relationship to work.

3. BDSM experiences or episodes are called scenes

You can’t say you had a BDSM sexual experience all the time because of the fact not all BDSM encounters are necessarily sexual in nature. Such encounters are commonly called “scenes” and describe very well what they are. You will meet with your dominant or submissive and experience a bunch of sensations while using certain toys and accessories plus verbal stimulation. While, it might end up sexual, this would just be a bonus after everything else.

4. Dominants and submissives are also called tops and bottoms

In common BDSM slang, a dominant or sadist is also called a top, while a submissive can be also called a bottom. The dominant likes to give orders and be in charge of the submissive and their sensations. They love to inflict pain and pleasure while the submissive has a strong level of obedience and likes to follow orders to please their dominant. However, no one says you can’t be both a dominant and a submissive in varied circumstances with different partners.

5. BDSM involves a lot of research and self education

While it is a very hot sexual fetish, BDSM is more than this. It requires knowing yourself and your partner as well as an understanding of your actions’ impact on them. In your research focus on how to increase excitement while you decrease risk and discomfort. To do this, you might have to be familiar with different techniques, toys, accessories and even psychological traits. If you want to pick up bondage gear for you and your partner, make sure you know what you need and how far you are willing to go with it. This is also why people who are into BDSM often follow a contract wherein it is clearly specified who the Dominant is and who is the Submissive and what practices are allowed as well as what are prohibited for whatever reason.

Let's Find Something Amazing!

FREE Ring Gag on Orders Over $39!

Get this Ring Gag FREE - a 45.95 Value! - with any purchase of just $39 or more!

Add the product to your cart and use code "FREEGAG" at checkout!

Your cart