Beginner’s Fun Guide to Explore BDSM

Stuck in a dull sexual routine? Try out the exhilarating world of BDSM to inject a whole new level of excitement in your relationship.
With the guide to explore BDSM, discover various scenarios, positions and levels of intensity to suit your desires and sexual comfort zone.

BDSM is a big and wide world you can explore. You don’t need to go all out with the whole dominant and submissive dynamic to experiment with this world. In fact, there are some things you can try to have fun with it. So, if your partner suddenly tells you they are interested in trying some of these, don’t be scared. It is actually a great opportunity to have an open conversation and explore some new things in your relationship.

It doesn’t matter how long the two of you have been together or how old you are, BDSM can be a great addition to any couple’s sex life. Everyone can have some fun with it! If you are in a routine, look no further than bondage because it may be exactly what you are looking for.

If you want to try it, set a date (or a night) to explore some new things. It is better to make it special or different from a normal sex session. Then again, you could also do this in the spur of the moment. It is your decision.

A blindfold is a great way to start this special night. Ask your partner if you can put it on them first. When they say yes, secure it behind their head. The whole point about blindfolds is to create a sensory experience. When you take away the sense of sight, the other senses become more focused and accurate. This is something you can play around with, so try to tease them as much as you can. For example, you can run your hands all over their bodies or, even better, use your tongue to do it. You can also blow some air on their erogenous areas after you have licked them.

Experiment with different scenarios if you want to make it extra special. You can feed them a delicious meal or use some sensory items like fruits and/or chocolate. Remember, expectation is part of the experience and it is what makes it more arousing.

You can also use a flower in the bedroom…yes, you read it right. You can make them smell the delicate flower while they have a blindfold on or when they don’t have it on. You can also use it as a tickler and run it over their skin. All of these caresses create the perfect foreplay scenario, if you ask me wink*

If your partner is in the mood for a massage then use some oil to rub down their skin. If you feel like trying something different, you can also try temperature play. Grab some ice cubes and run them all over your partner’s body. You can also combine the cooling sensation with some hot wax or warm water. The idea is to keep the brain and body guessing about what sensations they are about to experience.

You can use some handcuffs for the actual sex part. Restraints are a great way to drive your partner crazy. With everything they are feeling, they won’t be able to move at all. If you don’t want to use handcuffs, you can always use some rope and tie them to the bed. You can even use some bondage tape to tie their hands together. If this whole restraint thing interests you, then you can totally experiment with tying your partner up in different positions or look into rope bondage. You may find something to really spike your interest…wink*

For a fun game, you can take turns deciding what the other will do. Prepare two jars then on small pieces of paper write down different actions for both of you to do like ‘lick,’ ‘kiss,’ ‘suck,’ or ‘touch.’ Place this set of actions in one jar. In the other jar, write down several different body parts on small pieces of paper such as the lips, neck, genitals, butt, wild card, etc. The idea is for the two of you to take turns in selecting an action and a body part. You can practice on one another. Games have never been more fun!

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