Guidelines When Trying BDSM for the First Time

Trying out BDSM for the very first time? Here are a few guidelines.

So, you have decided to try out BDSM after all those years of reading about it on the internet. Well, you have made the right decision. In the world of BDSM, you are in for a lot. Your journey will be adventurous and full of thrills and excitements. You will make discoveries along the way. Big discoveries. You might experience things that will change your life. But there are a few things you need to be careful about. A few things you need to know. You can’t just jump on your bed and start a BDSM play with some random guy or girl you know nothing about. That could be an extremely dangerous and annoying experience for you. But hey, we are here to help each other out. So, let’s look at some safety guidelines you should follow before, during and after a BDSM play.

Find someone you know very well and can be trusted.

Remember, you might become vulnerable if you are playing a submissive role in the play. So, you will need someone you trust and have a good understanding with. If you are willing to try it with someone you don’t know very well, then try to know them first. Ask questions like what do they like most about sex, what fetishes they have, how rough they like to get during sex etc. Don’t be shy. Gather as much information you can. Ask your mutual friends if you have any.

Make sure you are not drunk when taking the decision.

Often conversations like this happen in a bar or a pub. Alcohol can cloud your judgements. Make sure that you make the decision in a clear conscious.

Meeting people

People who are into BDSM often meet with each other in a friendly manner. They choose a friendly public place where they can socially greet each other and carry on with their discussion. This also gives them an opportunity to know each other better.

When you are meeting new people, listen what they have to say. Crazed individuals have a tendency to do exactly what their saying. So, don’t underestimate what they say. They will do it. If you are not okay with the terms then never agree to play.

Listening to your instincts is a good idea. You will be excited, so there will be a good chance that you will get carried away. Don’t let that happen. Take your time and listen what they have to say and keep your ears open for those warning bells. Watch out for people who say that they don’t believe in safe words, or limitations of a sub.

Keep a time table

Let your friends know where you are going, what time you are meeting and what time you are leaving. Never change the venue at the last moment. Make sure that you will have a proper transportation when you leave. You don’t want to find yourself standing in the middle of nowhere looking for a lift when it is time to get back home and you are tired and you just want to take some rest.

A few words about the safe word

Most people you will meet in the BDSM community are good hearted kind people but there is always some pervert hiding among a large group of good people. Having a safe word ensures that your partner doesn’t get the best of you when you are vulnerable.

Make sure you have a clear understanding of the terms and conditions before you start. You don’t want to get out of your comfort zone in your very first play. That comes later. Check terms and conditions carefully before agreeing to a play. If you have health or mental conditions, or certain trigger points, inform your partner. Ask the same from your partner too. Use proper and sanitized BDSM gears. You can bring your own costume and toys like vibratos, dildos, anal plugs etc. You will have an experience of a lifetime as long you take proper caution and follow the guidelines. Be safe.