1. The Non-Dom
The non-dominant is not into an exchange of power or interested in being in control. The heightened sexuality that the plays bring to him is his only source of enjoyment. He enjoys the scene and feels safe if both he and his submissive are having fun. He usually will not try new things unless the submissive wants something specific. He gets a sexual pleasure from the sexual activities and not from sadomasochism or being in control.
2. The Role-Playing Dom
The role-playing dominant will act “Dom-ly” and appear to be in charge. He might enjoy humiliation and role playing. He will make his submissive serve him and kneel before him. He will always act his part of the role, just as he wants his submissive to act her part of the role too. He enjoys training new submissives because it makes him feel safe when his submissives have knowledge about domination and submission. This type of dominant will normally not force his submissives to do things they are uncomfortable to do or things that will push them to their limits. This kind of dominant will normally brag about the submissives he owns and the slaves that he has trained.
3. The Top
This type of person likes to be in control and play master. He prefers to have his slaves wear his collar before he establishes any kind of relationship with them. He might have the submissives serve him on a regular basis. It is likely that he will not concentrate on the relationship or the submissive’s development. Sometimes he gives the submissive exercises, and when the submissive does it, he will normally give very little feedback. He will be in charge most of the time, but he won't use that control for mutual benefit or growth.
4. The 24/7 Master
This person is always in charge of the relationship and is concerned with the submissive’s well-being. There always will be limits in the relationship, and those limits in the relationship are considered opportunities for a stronger bond and growth, and the submissive has obligation and duties to perform. This type of dominant regards the submissive as a possession and he spends his time taking care of the submissive. His role might be very similar to a “vanilla” husband, except that he has to be stricter, because he is the only one who is in charge of the relationship as well as well-being of his submissive. Because of the power exchange in which he agrees to accept power over the submissive’s life, this type of arrangement is generally entered into much more carefully and cautiously than a traditional marriage. Usually, both parties sign contracts specifying what the submissive role will be and the duration of the role. The contract is usually based on rules of BDSM etiquette, they are agreed upon terms, negotiations and it will establish area for further development and growth. The contract also may include clauses about who may break the deal, for what causes and what needs to be done in order to break the deal, and whether it is renewable or nonrenewable.
5. The Part Time Dominant
This type of dominant will have an ongoing relationship as dominant/submissive and he thinks of his submissive as his property at all times. He wants his submissive to grow and he tries to differentiate between what the submissive wants and needs. Most of the time, the dominant will rule the slave’s life and he will give assignment, tell the submissive how to act and may tell what to wear. He spends his free time on the submissive. This type of dominant will use various types of plays to help the submissive grow as well. He usually possesses knowledge on how to control the pain experience and push the submissive’s limits. He carefully watches the changes the submissive makes during the scenes and helps her grow. Usually the part time dominant performs after care after the scene.
