Putting the Dom in Dominatrix

What makes a dominatrix? Oh a question for the centuries. Each person will probably have something they associate closely with the term, but in general the terms include a mix of attitude and how you are presented. As you may know (if you don't, hello little charmer and welcome to new discoveries ;) a dominatrix is basically a female who plays the dominant role in the relationship. Domination has a lot of shades (not precisely of grey, ha ha); the spectrum of attitudes that come with being the one in charge is as vast as the ocean itself (and they said I'm not a poet, ha!). This means that domination can be taken in light or high doses, basically you will choose how to play it out exactly wink"

There are a lot of reasons why couples choose female domination, and whether this is a one-time thing or something to enjoy on daily basis (both are extremely good, trust me wink*) you will definitely be interested in these tips on how to act and look like the perfect dominatrix:

• First and most important: confidence. If you are not confident in what you are doing you are not going to have any fun. And why would you do this if not for your (and your partner's) pleasure? Be confident and feel the aura of the dominatrix surround you.
• Posture and mannerisms go a long way. You are the one in charge and this should reflect in your whole person. Be straight, don't hunch and carry yourself with authority. Remember, more than the orders you give is how you give them wink*
  
• Planning is key. As with every role-playing game, you need to come (wink* sorry couldn't resist) prepared. Know beforehand what the scene will be and the general line-ups of it. Don't get me wrong, I love some improvisation and it's important to let the scene flow and see where it leads (it usually leads to an… explosive result wink*) but its always a good idea to have in mind beforehand where do you want it to go and, perhaps more important, exactly how far are you willing to take it.

Now that you know what it takes to be in the dominatrix mind mode (I love how that sounds)let's continue and go over how to like a dominatrix:

• Usually black is the preferred color attire. Oh, and leather too wink*. Some women feel they can connect more with their dominant side in a full on black leather catsuit, others feel more confident in a tight leather dress. My favourite thing is that there are a lot of options and no guidelines, so just wear whatever feels best for you. One last tip? Whatever you choose, make sure it fits you just right(you'll thank me later, wink*)
• Go for high heels, specifically stiletto heels. They could be sandals, closed toes or knee high boots, like I said before, in this play you are the one calling the shots. Heels are sexy, make your body look awesome and they give you an extra boost of confidence. What's not to love?
  
• A corset it's a good idea for a number of reasons. They help you shape your body and they create a very sensual silhouette. It has just occurred to me that you could even wear one, some panties and nothing else… now don't go around telling me I don't give you any ideas(I may even do it myself tonight actually)
• Other preferred accessories are garter stockings (I'm thinking they'll pair well with just the corset and panties, wink*) or maybe some fishnet stockings instead?
• Also, gloves can definitely add a special touch to the look. Usually the elbow length ones are the most used for the dominatrix attire, but you could try fingerless or some other that tickles your fancy.
• And now for our final act touch: a whip or a crop. What's a dominatrix without one? An ice cream without the cherry, fries without ketchup, a desert without an oasis… sorry, you get the point. This will definitely make you get in the dominatrix zone and will make you feel powerful, besides of providing well,

Now that you have all these guidelines you can go and set up your preferred dominatrix scene. Just remember that the outfit does not make the dominatrix, the attitude and skills make the dominatrix. Go, experiment and have fun. And yes, that was my command.