Your Ultimate Guides to Bondage Safety

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A Proper Spanking - Safety Tips & Tricks for a Good Spanking!

The first step is to discuss with your partner what you will be doing and why. If you are doing it as punishment, be clear about why it’s happening. If it’s something you wish to explore or try, “no reason at all”.

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A Safety First Guide to BDSM Sensory Play

Although it may seem harmless, you will always need to practice some safety measures when you’re playing with something BDSM related… but I’m sure you already knew that, right? Wink*.

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A Sticky Situation: Getting Wrapped Up Safely with Bondage Tape

Bondage tape it’s one of the most versatile BDSM items out there. It makes up for a perfect way to tie someone up really fast, either to their own limbs or to piece of furniture.

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A Visit to the Vet for your Pony - Dental Examination

If you are into oral things like gags and mouth play and you are interested in pony play, giving your pony a dental exam seems like a match made in heaven.

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Adjusting for Inflation: Using Your Penis Pump Safely

Penis pumps are great for men who want to treat erectile dysfunction or simply want to augment the overall size of their penis. When you get a device, you want to keep in mind to always get one that correctly fits your particular penis.

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Advanced Penis Pump Techniques

Pulse pumping: You can vary different pressure levels when you are pumping to stimulate the augmentation of the penis tissue and the creation of new cells.

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Aftercare FAQ

Aftercare involves attending to the intense physical and psychological feelings that can occur after a BDSM session, continuing that deep connection you felt.

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All In The Wrist - Safely & Properly Caning Your Sub 

Using a cane can be something very rewarding. And yes, rewarding for both the person handling the cane and the person receiving the hits.

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BDSM Pet & Pony Play - Establishing Safe Boundaries

Pet play is one of the greatest things about BDSM. However, as basically every other fun practice, you will always need to look into some safety measures in order for your play to be smooth and both you and your partner.

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BDSM Power Exchange and Responsibilities: Dealing with “Drop”

Communication is vital at every stage, including in the aftermath of a scene. When you build a scene in real time and you both get hot and sweaty and then orgasm and are so exhausted you don’t even argue over who gets the wet spot, it is easy to forget what should come afterward.

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BDSM Principles

There are three basic principles in BDSM community - Safe, Sane and Consensual (SSC). All participants in a BDSM play must agree to these three principles of guidance and relationship activities in order to avoid any undesired situation.

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BDSM Rules: Yes they Exist

I always find it funny to see the reactions I get when I discuss the rules of a BDSM relationship. There are those that appear shocked that something as raw and raunchy as BDSM could have rules.

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Become a Sex Thimble with Piercing BDSM Play 

If you are a fan of that thin line where pain and pleasure mix, you will probably love piercing pay. In this practice, needles are inserted in erogenous areas. These areas can range from the nipples to the frenum.

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Bigger IS Better! Using a Penis Pump Safely & Correctly

Penis pumps are commonly used by men who suffer from ED; it’s great for those who want to increase their penis size circumference and size.

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Bondage – Safe, Sane and Consensual

Bondage should always be consensual. That's a given, right? If your partner is not there and having fun with you, it's not going to be enjoyable.

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Bondage Rope Safety Guide

You have probably heard about all the good things bondage has to offer. Not only it provides incredible visuals (nothing beats a beautiful torso adorned with ropes or a lovely set of wrists all bound up) but they are also a key component in the BDSM lifestyle.

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Breast Bondage 101: What You Need to Know!

Breast bondage is commonly used as a method or as a part of the submission training and process. As you may be aware, the breasts provide a very nice visual wink*; besides, they are incredibly sensitive.

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Catching Your Breath - Warning Signs During Breath Play

A lot of people have been playing with breath control as their ultimate fantasy. The problem is, it’s something incredibly risky to try and do because, at its core, you will always be in danger of dying.

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C’mon, Try Breast Bondage Already!

Breasts are a very sensitive and erogenous area for plenty of women out there. Most women love to be stimulated there because it’s highly satisfactory…and most men love the play with them because they love how they look and feel!

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Cruel to be Kind: Tips for a dominatrix in Session

If you are interested in the Dom/Sub world, you may wonder exactly how the training sessions go. The first thing you have to keep in mind is every session will be different, because it will depend on the person and the goals you two have agreed upon.

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Deep Passion - Carefully Caning Your Sub

Canes are a wonderful piece of equipment usually used in BDSM play. Although that doesn’t mean people who are not so into BDSM enjoy a good caning experience from time to time.

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Desire Made Real: Domination Starts With You!

If you have recently decided to embark on the wonderful journey of being a dominant, you may be somewhat at loss. And that is normal! Like anything that is new, it can feel frightening and exciting; the good news is you will learn along the way.

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Establishing the Basics

I know I’ve probably mentioned this about one hundred times, but BDSM can come in any way you like. BDSM related activities can be as kinky or as vanilla as you like; you can have a full blown dungeon style bondage scene or you can have a very vanilla sexual experience with a little sprinkle of kinkiness on top.

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Exploring the task - Dungeon Monitor

So, you’ve probably heard the term before: dungeon monitor. Your hear the term and you nod in agreement… oh yeah right of course, a dungeon monitor…But in reality you don’t have a clue about what it means.

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Facts About BDSM That Fifty Shades of Grey Left Out

Fifty Shades of Grey caught everyone’s attention upon its publication a few years ago, and it seemed to remain in the spotlight for quite some time.

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Five Beginner Kinky Items to Spice Up Lesbians’ Sex Lives

Us Lesbians can be a bit old-fashioned. I’ve encountered a lot of us who have never tried toys, or maybe did but simply don’t like them.

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Get Bound & Wound Up - Bondage Wrap Basics & Applications

When you want to tie someone up and have your wicked way with them, ropes are probably the first thing you are thinking about…or chains, depending on preference wink*.

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Get Caught Up In You - Bondage Wrap Play for Beginners

Bondage or vet wrap is a piece of stretchy and flexible fabric commonly used on bondage scenarios and bondage play. It was first used in the real life world by veterinarians, but it has evolved into being used for some more.

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Get Pumped! What You Need to Know About Penis Pumps

If you’re ready to try a penis pump and start reaping the benefits, you may want to pay attention to these helpful tips before you start pumping at your heart’s desire wink*.

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Helpless & Tied Up Alone - How to Practice Safe Arm & Leg Bondage

Tying your arms and legs it’s one of the most common ideas when someone wants to try self bondage. And it’s easy to see why; most of us are rendered useless when we can’t use our arms and legs, obviously.

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Home Alone & Horny - Arm & Leg Self Bondage

Tying your arms and legs it’s one of the most common ideas when someone wants to try self bondage. And it’s easy to see why; most of us are rendered useless when we can’t use our arms and legs, obviously.

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How to be a Safe & Sexy Dominatrix

Being a dominatrix can seem like a piece of cake, but it’s actually harder than it looks. There are not just outfits and props, there’s a lot more than that. Being a dominant means being in control while caring for your partner’s needs at the same time.

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How to do Self Bondage Part 2

Self bondage is only the act of restraining or putting yourself in bondage alone, any time you want and for as long as you wish. Alternately, you can have someone else release you, after you are done playing with yourself.

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How to do Suspension Bondage

Suspension bondage can be one of those exceptionally fun things to try out. Of course, it’s not something everybody can do. In order for someone to do it, they must have the right preparation and must be certain about what they are doing.

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How to Safely Dominate your Lover

When you have a new submissive, you need to discuss the boundaries and hard limits with them. And before you even start discussing limits, you need to make sure the relationship will head in the same way you two are expecting.

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Importance of Aftercare: Sub Drop, It's Not All About the Chocolate

Top drop, sub drop. These are terms used to describe some of the feelings experienced after a BDSM scene. You hear a lot about sub drop but not so much about top drop.

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In Charge: How to Be A Good Dungeon Monitor

The role of a dungeon monitor is quite simple: making sure everyone is having a good time while maintaining the party/house rules. But just because is simple doesn’t mean everyone can do it.

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Larger Than Life - Why You Could Benefit From Using Penis Pumps

You’ve probably seen millions of penis pumps over the years and wondered why you would want to try them sometimes. “What is the point of penis pumps? Are they for me?”

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Learning The Ropes - BDSM Rope Bondage For Beginners

Rope bondage is a common practice in the BDSM community, however knowing how to use your rope and to work with it demands a lot of work and dedication, so to speak.

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More Than a Mouthful! All About Gags!

In gags you will find the spice of life, right? Wink*. Everyone has a favorite…although, why choose? You can have all you want… On one hand, ball gags continue to be the most popular ones.

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More Than A Mouthful Proper Wear & Care of Your Gag!

Once you get the green light from a person to wear a gag, it’s really easy to put the toy on them. It can vary depending on the type, but the general rules are quite the same. Come and join me in this journey towards learning how to put on a gag.

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My First Time - Being a Dungeon Monitor

A dungeon monitor is simply someone who makes sure the rules are being followed during a play scene or a party. Their job also entails creating a safe environment overall for everyone involved.

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New to BDSM? Here’s what you need to know

We all have our own secret fantasies, buried deep down inside our mind. We all have that desire we keep hidden from the world. But why? What are we afraid of? Are we afraid that we will be judged for our desire?

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Performing Rope Tricks - How to Tie Your Own Self Bondage Rope Body Harness!

Body harnesses are useful if you want to use a little bondage in public or in your daily life. You can tie one and then get dressed as you would normally to go on with your daily life in public.

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Performing Rope Tricks - Self-Bondage Hogtie How-Tos!

Hogties are extremely fun, but they can be a bit harder to get if you like a bit of solo play or don’t have anyone around. But once you learn how to do it properly, things will get really easy.

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Practice Your ‘Lymbnastics’ By Tying Your Partner Up!

You can practice bondage is many different ways and you can tie your partner in many different ways. And I’m referring to tying in particular because almost anyone’s fantasy is precisely that: tying their partner.

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Proper Spanking Warm-Ups for You & Your Sub!

Some may say a good spank it’s like a good work out and who can blame them? Wink*. But just as every other extraneous activity or work out, you need to do a proper warm up first.

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Put a Little Spark into Your Play: Violet Wands

Tied to the cross, Jane cannot see Mike behind her. The anticipation thick in the air, Jane shivers as she waits, not knowing what was coming. Suddenly, she hears a buzzing, an unfamiliar electrical sound.

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Ready to go Deeper? Anal Play Advice for Before, During & After

If you want to indulge in a bit of anal sex, you need to be prepared. There’s no reason to be scared, anal sex can add a very different pleasure level to your sex life, but you do need to prepare and take some precautions.

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Safety Gag-gles Check! Let’s (safely) wear gags!

Gags are of the most popular forms of BDSM play and while fun, they can also be very dangerous if you don’t take the necessary measures.

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Safely Using Dildos for Anal, Vaginal, or Interchangeable Play

Dildos are one of the necessities and must have items a person has to have in their littletoy box. You can use a dildo for both vaginal and anal penetration, but you will need to know the difference.

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Self Bondage Safety Tips

Everyone knows any form of bondage comes with its own safety risks. Although some involve more risk than others, safety is something you should always keep in mind.

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Sexy & Safe Erotic Domination

If you are sure you are ready to embark on the responsibility that entails being a dominant; it’s time to step up to the next level. First, you need to take a good introspective look at yourself.

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Sinking Your Teeth In - Safely Wearing Gags

Gags are of the most popular forms of BDSM play and while fun, they can also be very dangerous if you don’t take the necessary measures. Although gags are probably the most used, these safety precautions work for any of them.

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Stimulated & Safe - Practicing Sensory Play Together!

Although it may seem harmless, you will always need to practice some safety measures when you’re playing with something BDSM related… but I’m sure you already knew that, right? Wink*.

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Suspension Bondage Safety Guide

Suspension bondage does look incredibly exciting and beautiful, I know, I’ve been there wink*. But if you have reading long enough, you have probably heard read that suspension bondage can also be quite dangerous.

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The Awesome Power of BDSM Gags - Playing Safe & Secure!

If you are new to the BDSM world, you may have heard the term gag just about a million times… And you may have been to embarrassed to ask what it actually means and entails and why do people do it?

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Tough Love - How to Be Safe Before, During, & After Spanking Play

Before you go all out and start to spank at your liking, you should know your partner will probably get bruises or red skin or marks, depending on what you use.

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Trying out BDSM for the very first time?

So, you have decided to try out BDSM after all those years of reading about it on the internet. Well, you have made the right decision. In the world of BDSM, you are in for a lot.

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Using Restraint - BDSM Wrist, Thigh, & Ankle Restraints Guide

We can all use some bondage in our lives, the doses will depend on your particular tastes wink*. As you know, bondage comes in a myriad of forms, so it’s up to you to decide exactly what you want.

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Wax Play 101

Wax play is one of the easiest ways to enjoy a nice sensual scene with your partner while adding just the right elements of pain/pleasure and eroticism. Wax play can be done a number of ways safely and without a lot of expense or physical exertion.

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