Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?

I am 48, single.

When did you first realize you were into bondage?

Not sure what age, but when I was rather young. Seeing a female tied up, gagged on various TV shows and in movies. I found that very exciting. In my early teens, I first saw Detective magazines.

How you best describe yourself and why? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn.

Dominant.

Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)

I would say it is slightly more physical. I find it very attractive to look at. I enjoy the looks in the eyes when one is tied and gagged, seeing the helplessness. Or the naked body bound, or a cute outfit.

Were lovers accepting of your interest in bondage?

Yes. In a couple of relationships, it happened to be easy to let them know that bondage was something I liked and we had great times using it. I have also been with others, where I never bothered mentioning it, knowing it wouldn't come about.

Please briefly describe your first bondage experience.

It was basic tie the wrists and tie the ankles with rope. Gag was a tube sock. This was with the first girlfriend I talked about bondage with. It was at her parent’s house when no one was home.

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What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?Β 

That would be the trust and companionship and communication.

What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?

Find common ground, discuss things first. Compatibility is important. Have fun, do things your own way.

What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from sub-shop.com and why?

My favorites are the ballgags. I love the way they look, I love applying them.

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