Meet Arizona Raven

Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?

I am married for over twenty years and my wife and I keep our sexual life very private. I work with developmentally disabled adults teaching them life skills and finding partners for our program for employment. It is rewarding to work with people who want to work and enjoy fitting in to society.

I live in a small town and I am well known to many business and professional people. I am discreet with my private life and sure no one suspects my sexual preferences. My wife also works with the public and is discreet as I am.

How you best describe yourself? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or FuzzyRainbow Unicorn. Please explain your choice.

I am a switch. I do prefer the submissive role, but occasionally switch roles with my wife to fulfill her desires.

I have been the dominant personality in my relationships and always took charge of any financial and life decisions. I can’t explain the reason, but I enjoy turning my body and mind over to someone to control sexual situations. I really get sexually excited being used and humiliated, knowing that my wife gets aroused and satisfied using and abusing me. It isn’t important that I orgasm as long as she is satisfied.

When did you first realize you were into bondage?

When I started watching pornography. I found myself becoming more excited watching BDSM and wanting to give it a try.

Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)

I believe it’s a bit of both. The physical desire is hard to describe. I love the feeling of having an erection; all my focus is on my penis and nothing else matters. Everything that is done to me or that I am made to do just makes my penis harder and longer. It’s a euphoric feeling that I never want to end.

On the emotional side, after a session there is a sense of emotional bonding. Knowing that I satisfied my lover and she satisfied me brings us closer in mind, body, and spirit.

What does BDSM mean to you: is it a lifestyle, a diversion, or something else?

It’s something else. It’s a mixture of trust, love, and excitement that fulfils the soul.

Can you describe your first bondage experience?

We were snowed in. No cable, no phone, just the two of us. We started drinking wine and smoking weed after lunch and playing cards. I suggested we take a bath together, but she had another idea. Whoever won the next game would tie the other up and have their way with them. I lost, and after she bathed, she ordered me to shower as she prepared the room. I was told to come to the bedroom naked. She had me lie on my back on the bed, blindfolded me, and bound my hands to the bedposts. I won’t go into details, but it was the best sex we ever had. From that day on, BDSM became a big part of our sex life.

What was your best bondage experience?

There have been many, but the one that stands out was the time we decided to have a full weekend of BDSM. From Friday evening to Sunday evening, I was her devoted slave to satisfy her every desire. She used, abused, and humiliated me for two whole days. It was great!!

Which part of your body do you consider the most sexy?

She says it’s my cock, balls, and ass….LOL.

What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?

Don’t be afraid to express your desires. Be open and honest. That’s the only way your fantasies will be fulfilled.

What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from Sub-Shop.com and why?

That’s a tough one, but I would say my chastity device. She loves frustrating and teasing me when I wear it, and I have to admit, I love it too.

What is your favourite knock-knock joke?

Knock Knock
Who’s there?
To
To who?
No, to whom

Is there anything else you would like to share with us such as advice, thoughts or more knock-knock jokes? We are all ears and ball gags.

The best advice I can give is to repeat what I said before. Be open, honest, trust your partner, and remember, its only sex. Don’t over think it. Have fun.