The biggest fantasy of women is to eat without gaining weight. But since my jeans show that I don't have that answer, we will discuss the biggest fantasy of most men. Threesomes.
If you haven't been with a man that requested a threesome, then you've never been with a completely and comfortably honest man. I joke. Some men don't want to share. But for many, this is a fantasy that they would love nothing more than to experience. But the question is, would bringing a third person into the bedroom be a good idea?
Obviously everyone is going to have their own position on this. Yes. No. Over my dead body. All of them are acceptable answers. Personally, I don't mind threesomes when my relationship is a little more casual. But when those serious feelings get involved I become a little territorial about who touches my man. That makes threesomes a little more difficult. So I just avoid them.
But that is my personal take on things. Let's look at a few good things to consider for you to decide if this is something that would work for you.
- Sexual Interest
Obviously one of the most important factors to consider is the interest sexually of both partners. If one of you isn't turned on by the idea of someone else being involved then the idea should be immediately taken off of the table.
If you are the female of the relationship and the idea of another female touching you makes you uncomfortable, then the threesome would not work out well. Take at look at what turns you on and off before you even contemplate deciding how to handle this particular situation.
- Your Relationship
Unless you are in a casual, sex only type of relationship it is important to consider it when making a decision like this. Do you have the trust level to be able to watch your partner be touched and touch another person? Is this something that would ruin your relationship due to bitterness and hard feelings?
Something many don't consider is the health of their own sex life. If you are using the threesome idea to add kink or spice, that's one thing. If you are trying to repair something that is broken it might not be a good idea to involve someone else.
- Confidence
Are you secure in yourself? Do you feel comfortable with your own sexual abilities? Are you pleased with your body? Most importantly are you pleased with your partner's perceptions of all of the above?
These are important questions to ask yourself. If you lack some of the necessary confidence in life, it might be a bit much to see your partner aroused by another person. You might have to live with insecurities in the future.
- The third party
It might seem a good idea to share this experience with a close friend, but sometimes that is the worst thing you can do. If you aren't completely comfortable with the scenario it may change from a sexual experience to a personal one in your mind. Suddenly that BFF that spends all her time at your house might appear to be flirting with your partner. You know that she turned him on once. It is enough to ruin friendships and relationships at the same time.
- Preferences
This is a big one. Make sure that you and the partner agree on what you want. Is this a one-time thing for a thrill? Is it something you want to repeat? Even he could get jealous if he finds you wanting another female involved more often than being with just him. Talk about how you want things to go and you'll save yourself a lot of arguing later.
