Erotic BDSM Ideas to Kink up Your Sex Life
If you are looking to expand your bedroom activities or simply want to try some things out of your comfort zone then introducing some elements of BDSM to your sex life might be an excellent idea. The good thing about this is you can just add some elements of it. For instance, you can use a costume, a toy or some other feature commonly used in BDSM play without having to go all out dominant or submissive in your relationship.
This is also a great way to experiment a bit more and indulge in some fantasies you have always had. Sometimes you can even find out some surprising things about yourself you never really imagined were there in the first place. Don’t let the general idea of BDSM fool you. To have some fun in the general BDSM spectrum doesn’t mean you have to try leather masks, chains and hardcore pain (if you are not into it). As a matter of fact, more and more people are trying to experiment with some light BDSM elements. So if you are looking to add some of it to your sex life, here are some suggestions to make the search a bit easier.
I know I’ve said before pain is not for everyone. But whips are a great element to add to the bedroom. Contrary to what you think, they don’t always create blinding pain. A whip should provide a small sting with a distinctive sound. It is usually the dominant person who wields it. The sensation the whip provides varies depending on how you use it. If you use a light hand, the sting will barely be felt while if you use it harder, the sting will be more powerful. Either way you use it, just make sure you hit the buttocks.
Handcuffs are another popular item used by a lot of couples. Indeed, there is something extremely sexy about tying your partner’s hands while you tease them without mercy. When you cannot use your hands, your body will have no choice but to simply feel and bask in the sensations you are experiencing. It may sound like a contradiction but being bound will actually allow you to release everything you are feeling.
Speaking of the senses, blindfolds are an amazing way to heighten them. If you take the sense of sight away then your whole body will perk up its nerve endings trying to compensate for what it is missing. As a result you will feel things more intensely. This is especially true for women because they tend to feel more aroused by the sensations unlike men who are more turned on by what they see, well, according to science anyway *wink* In any case, if you want to try something different during foreplay (and sex) then why not try putting on a blindfold and let me know how it felt.
For women, investing in a pair of ben wa balls can also be a great idea. These are simply two small balls you insert in the vagina. They can be used in two ways. First, to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, like kegel exercises, so you can have better control over your orgasms. The idea is for you to squeeze those muscles so they can stay in place. On the other hand, you can simply let them do their thing. The vibrations while you are moving around will feel very pleasurable.
Last but not least, we have the couple’s vibrators. Vibrators are great to pump up your sexual experiences and if you use one for couples then both of you will get the most stimulation out of it. For instance, a vibrating cock ring will provide excellent sensations for both of you during penetration. You can also try a couple’s massager and experience some tingly sensations together.
