Learn to Flirt without Really Flirting
Flirting is also a form of art. Some people are naturally good at it, but almost all can learn and practice the basics in this department. The whole thing about this is you don’t actually want to look as if you were trying too hard or you were thinking about it too much. You need to learn how to execute it naturally! It may take you a while, but in the end, you will be able to see the results. Let me paraphrase, all the people around you will be seeing the results wink*
Usually, the whole flirting-no flirting game goes a little bit along these lines: you will look into someone’s eyes for a few moments then look away as you smile or laugh. Additionally, you may also want to imitate the other person’s body language.
By this, I don’t mean you should imitate every single thing they do, you should be aware of their bodies and how they move so you can be in tune with them. If they are standing in a certain way, replicate it for instance.
Being subtle is a huge part of making it appear as if you have the natural charm. Basically, the other person will be attracted without really pin pointing exactly what fascinates them about you. They will probably make the first move and will seek you out, but your secret is you were actually the one who took the first step *wink*
Let’s say you are at the airport or a store, usually these places have an elderly woman who needs help. You can offer to put her luggage in the overhead compartment. When the cute guy you have previously had your eye on sees you, they will probably help you out immediately. This can be the perfect opportunity for you to meet each other ‘by accident.’ This only idea sample scenario, you can work something like this depending on your particular situation.
Another thing you can do is to call their attention, subtlety. If you are sitting next to someone who looks promising, you can put on some music or a podcast - you think they might enjoy too - if you are using your phone, gently tilt it towards them so they can take a peek. The idea is for them to initiate a conversation about it in particular. You can also do this with a book or a magazine. Get creative!
The important part of these scenarios is, technically, you appear to be not flirting. Yes, there are some calculations involved. It’s like using bait and seeing if you can catch a fish, but nothing too major or jarring. You generally have to give something to people for them to make the first move because without it, they will probably never approach you.
In all of this, eye contact is extremely important, gaze into their eyes so they can see you are for real. This will create the impression you are being attentive, it won’t hurt you to maintain a silent interaction. You will also start creating some intimacy and you don’t know where this can lead you *wink*
Of course, intuition plays a big role here. You need to be able to gauge your potential prospects. By doing this, you can have a clearer idea about who might take the bait. Not to mention chemistry as well; if you see someone interesting but there is nothing there (like a blank reading) this probably won’t work. If all of these seemed overwhelming to learn, try to start practicing *wink*
