4 Must Haves for Your BDSM Arsenal
When you get into the BDSM community, you might be overwhelmed with all the options you have to choose from when it comes to outfits, role plays, toys, accessories and sexual scenes as well as practices. All of these are specific to each BDSM scene and they can be very tempting to try especially for a beginner. But you don’t have to own an impressive arsenal to dive into BDSM practices, however, certain items are a must for you to start with and here they are.
1. A bondage system
You can try the basic bondage systems like armbinders or chair bondage or even harnesses, to get familiar with the idea of bondage. According to how much you and your partner enjoy such a practice, you can progress until you reach the extreme aspects of it and also the most intense ones such as suspension bondage systems, which are considered to be the top of the line. A great bondage system, when used correctly by both partners involved will lead to more exciting BDSM practices. All you have to do is take it step by step and follow your sexual instincts and fantasies.
2. Gags, gags, gags…all kinds
Gags are a must, at least in some BDSM scenes if not in most of them. They are the details to make the difference between a regular bondage sexual scene and a truly BDSM scene, same like whips or spanking paddles, but we will get to those later. Gags come in a variety of versions and it is up to you to find the ones both of you are most comfortable with. From gags to keep the mouth closed to gags keeping the mouth open, also called ring gags, all have an intense impact during the sexual encounter and can excite both the dominant and the submissive because it takes the intensity of control to a whole new level!
3. Spanking paddles, whips, floggers
No, you don’t have to have them all. But whatever sounds more appealing to you should be found in your sexual arsenal. Impact play is a big aspect of BDSM fetishes and it can bring a great level of excitement when done with the right intensity and the correct tool. Spanking paddles are very popular among beginner BDSM enthusiasts but whips and floggers can be very attractive to. Before you make your final decision, talk with your partner and see what common view you two have on the matter and go for it!
4. Sexual toys
Last but not least, sexual stimulating toys are very welcome when you want to dive into the world of BDSM. You can try everything from basic dildos and vibrators to more specific stimulators such as nipple clamps and prostate stimulators, whatever sounds interesting to you and your partner. When you get to this level, though, you might feel comfortable to go a little crazier and try to reach some serious limits. When you get there, an entire world of possibilities opens up for you. *wink*
If you have a few of these items to get familiar with during your first BDSM scenes, then you are on the way to a great journey. It will lead both you and your partner to an amazing number of orgasms and new ways to discover intense sexual satisfaction. What’s more, it offers new ways to explore your sexual identities and understand each other better than ever before. Being open and willing to try new things is crucial for a successful BDSM relationship. But keep in mind, the sane, safe and consensual rule should always be followed if you want to have the amazing sexual outcome you are aiming for. Your partner will be willing to join you in everything you want to experience as long as you open the right doors for them and help them find the same excitement in it as you.
