Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?
I work for the government and am married to a very intelligent and beautiful woman whom I am also collared to.
When did you first realize you were into bondage?
I think I realized when I was around 10 or 11. I had seen something about Harry Houdini doing some type of escape trick and decided that I wanted to see if I could do it. So I managed to tie myself up in some really odd manner. Once I had that done, I realized I kind of liked it and didn't actually WANT to escape!
How you best describe yourself and why? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn.
I would call myself a switch; I’m really an odd duck. I am submissive to my wife and two others whom I am collared to. However, we are looking for a sissy maid and I will NOT be submissive to them. When I first got into the community, I was a submissive because I was someone you went to in order to get $hit done. But, now that I have grown, I have realized that I prefer to lead those who are getting stuff done.
Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)
Definitely emotional. Don't get me wrong, the physical is really NICE, but I really love the comfort of knowing that my wife is looking out for me and will keep me safe. I know that that is not just because of being a BDSM relationship, but, what can I say, I'm a girl. ;-)
What does BDSM mean to you: is it a lifestyle, a diversion, or something else?
When I first started in the community, I started from within the gay leather community. That community has a big push on charity events and raising funds for charities. It was a lifestyle because there were events almost every weekend. I gained a leather family that I am still a part of despite the fact that I am not active in that community at this time. Honestly, my wife and I make it work and we talk about it when we need to and we play when we get to. So, it can be a little bit of all of the above.
Were lovers accepting of your interest in bondage?
I was not interested in a lover if they were not interested.
Please briefly describe your first bondage experience.
I had heard about a group that met at the local gay club that was into BDSM. I had said hi to them when they passed by every month. I finally had the guts to ask what they were up to and when they heard I was interested in being spanked, they invited me to the party. I remember being spanked by the actual club president, who was a submissive. It was pretty nice. I ended up bottoming and playing with submissives more than the dominants.
What was your best bondage experience?
For one of my birthdays, my best friends brought me to the bar and I was tied over a bar stool for a couple of hours. Occasionally I would be spanked, or I would dance with people (yes, while still tied over the bar stool)
What is the most creative safeword you have ever used?
Safe word Mother F-er
What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?
COMMUNICATION!!!!!!! More than anything else, if you can speak with and listen to your partner, none of the rest of it matters. I'm not talking about hearing, but actively listening. There are things they can tell you, but, when you know how to listen to your partner, you can hear the things they are not telling you as well.
What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?
Play it safe. If something feels "off" it's okay to say no (or safeword or whatever you need to). If you are being pressured to do something you don't want to, then do NOT do it. However, be prepared to grow and, when you find someone that you trust, be ready to slowly try things you haven't tried. You never know what you'll like and you may like person's style for a type of play. It could change how you feel.
What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from sub-shop.com and why?
The gags are great!!! I tend to grind my teeth, so I have the rubber ended ones so that I can do that. I really like the pony gear as well, unfortunately, we don't have the room to do any of that play. . . yet!!
What is the one sensual fantasy you haven’t lived out yet that you are excited to try?
I really would love to do a hunt scene where pony's draw the dom/dommes that want to hunt and I get to be one of the bunnies or foxes that is chased.
What’s your favorite knock-knock joke?
Orange you glad I didn't say banana!
What is Eskimo ice?
When you attempt to do a golden shower in Alaska???