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Meet Matt D.

Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?

My everyday vanilla life is as plain and boring as vanilla ice cream.  Work is only a means to live and it really isn't much to talk about.   

When did you first realize you were into bondage?

I was 17.  I saw a picture of a woman tied up online. Now, bear in mind this was the early 1990's, the internet was nothing like it was now and I liked what I saw and it gave me that feeling (of being turned on) and searched for more of it.  Found more and definitely liked what I saw and started incorporating it into relationships and it grew rapidly as the internet grew, it was a lot easier to find what I wanted and was able to involve it more as I grew more experienced and was able to work with more equipment.

How you best describe yourself and why?  Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn. 

Dominant, but more in terms of sexually, I highly value input and want both people to enjoy ourselves so it's a little give and take in terms of interests, and as long as we have common interests, I can usually find a very common ground for both of use to enjoy.

Were lovers accepting of your interest in bondage?

Yes, shortly after I got interested in it, it was something I had to have in a relationship and if it wasn't something they were willing to explore, there was never a relationship.

Please briefly describe your first bondage experience.

First one was a friend that I was hanging out with in my bedroom when I was 17 or so and I don't remember exactly what brought it up, but my random nature spotted some really horrible rope that wasn't really much at all and I said something along the lines of hold on a second and just tied her dressed to the bed spread eagle.  The rope didn't really hold and I ended up holding her down more than anything, but enjoyed it and was very much turned on and that was the beginning of a long journey.

What was your best bondage experience?

Hmm, very much a tough one, but I am going to edit the question to most "memorable" as that is much easier to pick out.  I was with my girlfriend of a few months at the time and she was over at my parent's house, I was about 20 or so and my mom had gone out and was expected to be out several hours.  I had tied her to the bed spread eagle, ballgagged her and blindfolded her. When we were both naked and having sex, I saw my mom arrive in her car. My girlfriend’s car was in the driveway, so my mom knew she was over. As I was naked and had her tied to the bed with a condom on, I pulled out of her, told her my mom was home, put on a shirt and shorts with the condom still on closed the door to my room and helped mom bring in the groceries. I told my mom she wasn't feeling well and was laying down in my room. Finally after about 15 or 20 minutes that really felt like an hour, mom went off to the shower and I finally was able to go in and untie her.  She did manage to pop the gag out and slip the blindfold off and we both felt a whole lot better that she wasn't seen like that.  

What is the most creative safeword you have ever used?

Hossenfeffer.  No idea why, but it sounded good at the time.

What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?

Both parties to have a good time, built trust and feel safe.

What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?

Go slow, take your time, read as much as you can online and ask more experienced people before you do anything. I know its something you really want to do, but being safe, sane, and consensual is the way to go.  

What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from sub-shop.com and why?

How can I possibly pick just one?  I have ordered so many of them, it is nearly impossible to pick just one, but I have an armbinder I have had for many years, that I got from subshop, that is a leatherette armbinder and is amazing quality, with several straps and a lace up back that fits many people. I truly enjoy using it and it has absolutely stood the test of time. Almost everything I have ever gotten from sub-shop has been as good or better than advertised.

What is the one sensual fantasy you haven’t lived out yet that you are excited to try?

I've always wanted to do a clips4sale or images4sale site, but have never had the partner who wanted to do it as much as me which would allow me to produce the content without having to pay a model.

What’s your favorite knock-knock joke?

Don't have one, but:

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