Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?
My everyday life is very simple, I retired in 2004 from the computer industry but still work part time parking cars as a valet on weekends. Also during the week I volunteer one day a week at the VA as a computer instructor.
When did you first realize you were into bondage?
Think it is in my genes. As early as I can remember I was into bondage. From Tess being tied up in the Dick Tracy comic strip to Dame Diana Rigg being bound at the end of every episode of The Avengers, also there was Dennis the Menace tying up his baby sitters. I was surrounded by bondage from an early age and it stuck with me.
How you best describe yourself and why? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn
I am defiantly Dominant. I am the one who comes up with what to do when we set "scenes."
Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional?
It is positively both. The physical side is very rewarding in of itself. The time put in doing the binding, the different positions, and then all the sexual teasing that comes after plays into the emotional side with the caring and love I have for my cherished Wenchie. We started growing our love twelve years ago and it is still growing every day.
Were lovers accepting of your interest in bondage?
Some were, others just wanted to try it, but most walked away. It was very difficult finding a like-minded partner until AOL came along with its chat rooms for just about any subject. I learned more from the folks there about what I was feeling and wanting to do for my partner.
Please briefly describe your first bondage experience.
The first one was very rocky. Both of us didn't know what we were doing. Up until I was 42 it was more a fantasy then a reality. It was then I started studying the art of bondage and anatomy to make sure I wasn't hurting anything (that didn't want to be hurt... if you know what I mean.)
What was your best bondage experience?
I feel my best has yet to come! Wenchie and I are getting better at reading each other’s signals; we get better just about every time we have fun.
What is the most creative safe word you have ever used?
Still use "red" and three hard grunts and shaking her head no repeatedly. (Which seems to be the "industry standard.")
What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?
A good and proper climax for both partners.
What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?
Respect your partner wholly and unconditionally. Also, study. Know how far a limb can bend how tight a breast can be bound. There are plenty of books on knots and safe bondage techniques to be read. Do your homework first.
What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from sub-shop.com and why?
My favorite (because Wenchie likes it) is a spandex hood with a built in blindfold and mouth hole. Mine is black but Autumn has it in pink now.
What is the one sensual fantasy you haven’t lived out yet that you are excited to try?
Keeping in mind the question is about fantasy... But to have two partners bound and bring them to orgasm at the same time. I feel the ultimate reward is the climax of my partner.
What’s your favorite knock-knock joke?
Ji mind if I come in - it is cold out here!
What is Eskimo ice?
To my best recollection, it is a mixture of blubber, fish oil, indigenous berries and greens, stirred and frozen then served as a treat to the children of the tribe.