It may or not be your biggest mission in life, but giving a woman a pretty big orgasm is certainly a cause to be pretty damn proud…so how can you do it? When it comes to pleasuring the opposite sex I think we can all agree some nice pieces of advice are always welcomed, am I right?
The very first thing you need to keep in mind is you need to really focus on the preparation. This translates to a lot foreplay and setting up the right mood for her to be at her most receptive. You can do this in a bunch of different ways; it will depend on what your partner enjoys and what your resources are. For instance, you can take some time to schedule a proper date with her favorite dinner at candlelight (don’t forget dessert) or you could draw her a nice bubble bath…or you could give her a massage while you whisper sexy memories of the both of you in her hear. Basically, whatever you now it will arouse her.
The second thing to keep in mind is to never go too fast; the body needs to be highly aroused in order for her to enjoy you suddenly going all in on her nipples or even her clit. You need to get her super turned on before you get to those really fun parts…trust me, she will thank you.
As for penetration you are probably aware a lot of women don’t achieve orgasms just by penetration alone, so you need to do other things. But even then, penetration is always nice when it is done properly. This means you should always ask before inserting anything into her vagina, even if you assume she is ready. Lubrication always helps, but it shouldn’t substitute actual foreplay. When a woman is aroused her vaginal wall expand, so that is why you should never skip it. You can always tease her vulva with your fingers and penis to increase her sensitivity before you go all in.
Now, so about the big O. The most common method to make a woman come is to basically concentrate on highly sensitive areas at the same time. You can always focus on the clitoris, but don’t forget about other erogenous areas; the cervix, the g-spot, the breasts, her thighs, neck and earlobes tend to be safe bets here. When you are penetrating her, rub her clit and kiss her neck for instance. Every woman is different so you will need to figure out the exact combination to drive her mad but that is part of the fun when it comes to sex.
When you are penetrating her is also important to have a nice rhythm. Every sexual encounter is different and every partnership as well, so you could always her if she needs it slower, faster, harder or softer. Communicating with her to see what she needs to get there is a major key to opening that orgasm lock.
Oh, and I have to offer another piece of advice. Women hate when you constantly ask her ‘are you close?’ Obviously you can ask her, but don’t utter the question every five minutes because she may feel as you are pressuring her to come. And this is a huge mood killer, so don’t go overboard.
And finally, remember to have fun. I know I always say this but I think is important to always keep it in mind: sex should be fun. Sometimes it gets awkward, other times it doesn’t work out as you thought it would, but the important part is to always have fun with your partner and be intimate with them. So in this case if she doesn’t come in the first try, you can always try again wink*