Sometimes, sex takes work. When it comes to women, it might even take an entire science! Orgasms are not a given when we talk about women. So, it might require a little more work and dedication. According to statistics, only 25% of women actually achieve an orgasm during sexual intercourse. It is because of the lack understanding when it comes to their body and their sexual needs. On the other hand, statistics regarding men show more than 90 percent of them hit the orgasm point during intercourse so it happens all the time and not just occasionally. There is an obvious imbalance here but there is also a science behind it.
Most scientists can’t agree on the answer to the question, “Why do we have an orgasm?” Luckily, most of them can agree on the “how do we have an orgasm?” part of the dilemma. After all, this is also important. Apparently, everything comes down to pure anatomy. When women reach an orgasm point, it is a consequence of the blood flow in their body heading straight to their clitoris, causing the incredible excitement women feel and culminating in an orgasm. Several changes contribute to it but no woman who is in the middle of climax could identify these or any other matter going on around her because her mind is locked into a state of excitement and pleasure. It is separated from the reality, well, at least for a few but very intense seconds. All this tension caused by the blood running wild toward your climax and the anatomical changes taking place due to the excitement, culminates into one or several orgasms we find so hard to explain. If your partner knows you well, they should also know what buttons to push to make you reach this intense sexual experience, even if they need to use extra toys to get you there like a dildo or a vibrator or any other kind of stimulator (nipple stimulators do a great job in this matter because they explore a highly erogenous zone of a female body namely her breasts, especially her nipples!). But, there are still cases wherein orgasms don’t happen, even if the partner is well experienced and the female is very open and willing to lose control of her body. In most cases, when the woman doesn’t reach an orgasm it is because she doesn’t get enough stimulation. We can talk about clitoris stimulation as well as nipple stimulation because some women are able to reach an intense orgasm by simply getting their nipples stimulated enough to release the sexual tension in their bodies. This is also why many sexologists and scientists recommend the woman be on top during the physical sexual intercourse because it allows their partner to stimulate them and play with their body enough to lead them to an incredible sexual satisfaction to culminate in an amazing orgasm.
In all cases, communication between the two partners is the key. A woman gets to know and understand her body from a sexual perspective through masturbation. Through communication she can share these little secrets with her partner and show them what they have to do to stimulate them enough to reach an orgasm. Couples who are together for a longer period of time get to know such secrets so their sexual encounters are more than a race toward an intense orgasm. Thus, they tend to focus more on the journey than on the destination. So, the next time you want to satisfy your woman pay attention to the signs and her directions. Chances are she will tell you or show you exactly what you have to do to get to her to the maximum sexual point. A great relaxing massage is also recommended to release stress and prepare the body for the sexual encounter about to happen.