Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?
I'm 21, and a third year university student; I’m currently studying History in Wales and I've been with my girlfriend for just over 9 months. I watch Formula one, read Tolkien, game and drink as frequently as possible.
When did you first realize you were into bondage?
Don't recall exactly but must have been early teens, realizing I was always disappointed when the kidnapped women on tv had the tape gag removed.
How you best describe yourself and why? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn.
99.97% Dominant- this is difficult to explain since it's such a large and central part of me. I guess its twofold; firstly I love the feeling of power and control and to see and understand that power over another person. Secondly, and I think this is more important, people have their power taken away from them everyday by their bosses or colleges or family or friends or police or doctors… the list is endless. But it is an immensely rare thing for someone to voluntarily surrender complete control to another person. It requires vast amounts of mutual trust and respect and to know that I have that with my girlfriend is amazing.
0.03% sub, I do enjoy being teased now and again, something she is annoyingly good at taking advantage of!
Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)
It's both, but to different degrees depending on the play. In an intense scene the emotional exchange can surpass all physical aspects but also a lot of the things we do and try are because we want them to be sexy and fun.
At the end of the day I want to see my girlfriend in hot outfits and brilliant bondage with sexy toys because it turns us both on, and doing that leads to an emotional closeness that is just as if not more enjoyable and immensely desirable.
Were lovers accepting of your interest in bondage?
Some were, some were not. In my relationship now it's been brilliant; we aren't just accepting of each other's kinks but interested in them and finding new ones and because of that we're both much kinkier than we were when we started going out.
What was your best bondage experience?
I can't decide on one… thought I had got it to the top 7, but then thought of three more. I’ve done so much fun and sexy stuff it's impossible to call one best when so many were so great in so many different ways. Using new toys (straight jackets, hoods, ring gags) new ways to tie (mummification, rope bondage) new styles (humiliation, edging, torture) just too much good to call one thing best
What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?
Don't judge what your into by others. By most people standards my relationship is very, very kinky but to some we're practically vanilla. It's not a competition is just about enjoying yourself. Also, don't get overwhelmed by all the titles and labels, you don't have to know the exact name of your deepest most unknown fetish and you don't have to be a polymorph vegan Bi tickling monkey domster unless you want to be. If you just want to be a person who does kinky things then that’s cool. If you find a title that fits, brilliant, but you don't need one and you don't need to be intimidated by them :)
What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from sub-shop.com and why
Ermmmmmm, I have so many. Love the complete control straight jacket and leg binder set, it has a lot to offer. But I think my favorite is probably the PVC Hood because it just looks soooooo hot.
However I have just ordered the shiny spandex sleep sack after waiting SOOOO long for it to be in stock and am REALLY excited to give it a go.
Also had a magic wand that we named Joe that was amazingly effective and fun but it broke :'(
What is the one sensual fantasy you haven’t lived out yet that you are excited to try?
Would love to get into and get good at suspension and predicament bondage
What’s your favorite knock-knock joke?
Knock knock
Who's there?
Chicken
Chicken who?
Never mind the house I want is on the other side of the road
What is Eskimo ice?
Ermmm ice that dogs collect on a sledge?
