Please tell us a little bit about yourself β How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?
I work as a lighting tech for live events. At home I enjoy working on cars, making models, playing with my kids and dogs, and playing video games.
When did you first realize you were into bondage?
Probably when I was in my teens when I started to experience my sexuality. I found I enjoyed looking for bondage more then I did normal sexual stuff.
How you best describe yourself and why? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn.
I think I tend to be more submissive but I also enjoy switching it up and being dominant. My wife is the same way in reverse so it works out great.
Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)
Both. Half of it is giving total control to someone and/or someone allowing you to have full control over them. The physical side is more about allowing yourself to live in the moment and to be pushed out of a comfort zone. Depending on the night the physical might take over and youβre completely caught up in the moment, or just fall more in love with your partner.
What does BDSM mean to you: is it a lifestyle, a diversion, or something else?
If I had to sum it up I would say a diversion from the everyday, but its more then just a diversion, its where me and my wife are completely focused on each other. Kind of like getting back to the basics.
Were lovers accepting of your interest in bondage?
Very much so, It was kind of hard to bring it up but its kind of part of who I have become as a person. It wouldnβt be the same without giving my wife control or her giving me control.
Please briefly describe your first bondage experience.
Kind of hard to remember at this point but it did not turn out super well. We were both fully subs at the time and I was not fully comfortable with myself. So I learned that I need to be open with myself before I can give myself to someone else. So I will just say my first time with my girlfriend who ended up becoming my wife, I got to be the dominant one. I tied her to the bed and explored what she liked and did not like you could say I really got to know her that night. About a year later I knew she was the one.
What was your best bondage experience?
I think the best would have to be not too long ago after we purchased our first wand vibrator. I was the dominate one and I was able to keep my wife on the edge for about 40 min. I donβt think Iβve ever been able to tease her for so long and it made for a great orgasm for both of us.
What is the most creative safe word you have ever used?
We have never used a safe word to this day, simply because we havenβt been to a point where we need to yet. If we try something new we talk about it and make sure everythingβs okay. If we ever do use one we have talked about "Assbutt" or "Pecan Pie" as my family are huge Supernatural fans and it would be very hard to not laugh hearing that in the middle of sexy time.
What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?
Giving yourself completely to the act and the other person. Its one of the few times in your life someone will literally have willing total control of someone else. So give in or go all in depending on your role at the time.
ΒBe yourself and talk about it, whether youβre enjoying it or not. And donβt be afraid to ask your partner about things you want to try/are not sure about.
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What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from sub-shop.com and why?
Corded Wand Vibrator. Others are nice but this has the advantage of power and easy control. And with the cord you will never have to do a battery change that kills the mood. Latex Blindfold. or one thatβs comfortable that will not slip off. As a sub it amplifies your other senses and leaves you guessing at whatβs next. As a Dom you donβt have to worry about working in the dark or keeping track of toys and your Sub is never getting ready for what you have next. Stuffed gag My wife has a small mouth so these fit the best and are comfortable, we have tried a lot of gags and these by far are the best noise to comfort level. Straps and leather cuffs So many ways to use them and they are fast. For us being tied up is not always "foreplay" sometimes it can be, but if youβre in the mood spending 30 min to tie someone up with rope just is not worth it.
What is the one sensual fantasy you havenβt lived out yet that you are excited to try?
All day/Overnight bondage. Iβve tried it once but we havenβt done it all out yet. And surprise bondage sex.
Can crop circles be square?
Indeed.
If you had to be trapped in a tv show for a month, which would you choose and why?
Firefly, Because who wouldnβt love to live your life in the stars living life one adventure/job at a time.
Is there anything else you would like to share with us such as advice, thoughts or a silly knock-knock jokes? We are all ears and ball gags.
Donβt be ashamed of who you are or what you like. People should never dictate who you are. Also never be afraid to try anything. Better to fail then to live life never knowing what would happen.