Pregnancy is an important phase in the life of a woman and it comes with many physical changes on top of all the emotional ones that can actually change a life. When you become a mother, the set of priorities is changing and the level of values as well. And while some changes are more obvious, others will take certain time to be understood. And along with all these changes in your life, your sexual life will suffer a number of transformations as well. However, there is nothing to worry. As sexual life after pregnancy simply goes through a phase that, if you are aware of, will not affect you on the long term and you will be able to get adjusted to it quite fast. So, let’s see some of the major changes that take place after you entered motherhood and how can you face them to your best abilities!
1. Wait until you are physically and emotionally ready to have sex again
Your body is going through a lot of transformations and stress during pregnancy and even more so during birth and after it. There are many phases that you will have to deal with in a short period of time and while sexual intercourse might not be a problem during the nine months of pregnancy, it might become a delicate subject after you have a child. This is not just concerning your body but also your emotions. You might not have a high sex drive after giving birth either, on top of the fact that your body is not ready for sexual intercourse for a couple of weeks after the event. This is why is important to give yourself time until you get into a new sexual routine and make sure you talk with your partner about it so that they will not take it personal and they will help you go through this phase easier.
2. Be intimate with your partner even if you are not having sexual intercourse
Now, we know that intimacy is not about intercourse alone. You can enjoy each other at an intimate level in many ways, and you can add some sex toys and accessories to the scene to spice things even more. But take it step by step. Try to sexually stimulate your body in other areas than your genitalia which was the most exposed during birth. Use nipple clamps, butt plugs, electro-stimulating devices or even vibrators to reintroduce sexual pleasure and satisfaction in your life. You can do this alone while you masturbate or with your partner. And since the connection between you and your partner is highly important is probably best to incorporate these sex toys into your intimate moments. Such sexual stimulating scenes will not only bring you closer to each other again but also reinforce the bound between the two of you while going through the incipient phase of motherhood.
3. Quickies might be your new best friend
If you were never a big fan of quickies, you might start to enjoy them after having a child. There are more reasons for this. For once, your child will occupy most part of your mind and you will not have hours to enjoy the sex life that you used to enjoy before they were born. But this is just temporary. And secondly, your body will not be able to enjoy hours of intercourse soon after giving birth. Your genitalia is very sensitive and you will need to protect it for a while which might mean that quickies will be the best solution for the moments when both you and your partner need some intense sexual intercourse. And quickies can be pretty intense, especially after such a long break from a constant sex life. So, don’t long for your hours of intercourse and start to find ways to enjoy the quickies as much as possible for your own comfort and for the sake of your intimate relationship with your partner.
