When to See a Sex Therapist

Sex therapists can help you extremely, especially when your sex life is struggling and we all have phases like that. Unfortunately, not all couples go to see a sex therapist until things get too complicated and hard to control. This happens because they fail to recognize the first signs that signal a certain problem, or they ignore them with the hope that they will find their own resolution which is almost never the case. If you are able to identify the first sexual problems that appear in your life, fixing them will be a lot easier and will require less effort. So, let’s see what are the most important signs that tell you to see a sex therapist!

1. Sudden loss of sex drive

For a couple, sexual life is very important for both physical satisfaction and a balanced level of intimacy. Attraction between two people is one of the essential factors that keep them together and when this is fading, usually it is a sign of a deeper problem. But most couples tend to blame a busy schedule or a high level of stress on the lack of intimacy and sex drive, when this can’t be the case for more than occasional situations. If you don’t feel attracted to your partner like you used to, it could be more than time to blame. A sex therapist can help both of you find the connection that you lost and start rebuilding your sexual life with the passion that you had when you first got together. But you have to ask for such a professional help.

2. You struggle to reach an orgasm

Reaching an orgasm is easy when the sexual energy is high. And there are plenty of sex toys and accessories that you can use to make this process even more interesting for both of you. But when you add tools like electro-stimulating devices, new dildos, nipple clamps and even orgasm belts to the sex scene and you still don’t reach an orgasm as easy as you expected, it is time to ask for help. If on top of all that you also tried new forms of sex, such as anal sex or the use of a butt plug and you still didn’t find it easier to reach an orgasm, the sign is clear and it can be easily fixed by talking to a specialist.

3. You feel pressured to have sex

Many couples deny a lack of intimacy and a lack of sex drive by pushing each other to fit certain sexual standards. Pressuring yourself or your partner to have intercourse when there is a low sexual desire or even no sexual desire is no way to fix such a problem. Sex can’t be done out of obligation. And, usually, orgasms reached this way are not satisfying. Some of them are even fake since the sexual energy wasn’t there to begin with. As high as your expectations might be from your relationship, it is better to ask a specialist for certain ways to reach them instead of pushing your sex life to its limits and causing worse damage.

4. You masturbate more than you have sex

We all masturbate. Masturbation is not just pleasant but also healthy in many aspects and it can contribute in a positive way to our sex life. However, the problems appear when we take masturbation over real intercourse. Some people prefer to spend hours satisfying their sexual needs by themselves, while they didn’t have a real sexual encounter with their partner in months and, in some cases, even years. This works for a personal level of sexual satisfaction but for a relationship it couldn’t get any worse. While one partner takes care of their sexual needs, the other one feels neglected, unattractive and even rejected and they will find ways to fulfil that void by masturbating as well or even worse, cheating. Therefore, use masturbation in your favour and not against you. The best way to do it is to masturbate when your partner is not available for a real sex scene. But always make your partner a priority when it comes to your intimate life.