The BDSM community has a variety of fetishes and fantasies for you and your lover to enjoy on your first kinky night together. Beginners to bondage and other BDSM practices might find it overwhelming to enjoy such sex games. In fact, it can become frustrating. To avoid this, it is important to have some knowledge on the subject before diving into it. This goes for even the simplest BDSM sex scenes to be able to enjoy them to their best capacity. However, not to worry, because chances are most of the sex games will come natural to both of you, especially if you are interested in mixing sexual pleasure with just the right amount of pain. Here are some tips and tricks to follow to make sure your first BDSM night turns out a complete success!
1. Stay confident and keep an open mind
Confidence is essential in any type of sexual encounter more so in a BDSM sex scene. You have to be confident about your own sexual desires and actions. Don’t be afraid to express them and be spontaneous during the sex scene. Your lover will not only appreciate your confidence but they will feel encouraged to express their sexuality too. A high level of confidence will also help you to keep an open mind
during this time. Don’t resist new temptations and experiences because it can help you explore your sexuality. Moreover, raise it to new standards and if possible, allow you to discover new fantasies along the way. Your partner might also have some interesting ideas during your sexual encounter. It would be a shame not to try them out. Who knows it could lead the two of you to reach amazing orgasms together!
2. Establish a safe word
Before any BDSM scene starts, it is always a good idea to set up a safe word just in case things get out of hand. The safe word will come in handy when you want to avoid awkward situations or decrease the intensity of the sexual activities you are doing. This can prevent those moments of sexual turn off when you are not sure how to express your desires and how to give your lover some hints. Maybe the size of the butt plug is too big or maybe the nipple clamps are too tight. In such situations, use your safe word. Afterward, adjust and continue the sexual encounter in the best
way for both of you. Remember all BDSM scenes have to be sane, safe and consensual for both partners involved in the sexual encounter. Furthermore, a safe word serves to establish a common level of pleasure and satisfaction for both of you, which is why it is important for beginners!
3. Don’t be afraid to try new sex toys and accessories
BDSM scenes can be enjoyed with a multitude of sex toys and accessories. Once you get into these types of sexual encounters, you might expand your sex arsenal in a significant way. You can try sex toys for every type of fetish and fantasy such as orgasm control or extreme stimulation. For bondage scenes you can use rope or tape to restrain your lover to have more control over them. Exchanging control during your sexual encounter is a big part of BDSM and you can make it as exciting as you want. Decide before hand who is the dominant one and who the submissive one in the sex scene is, then adapt your sex toys and accessories to your role. The more accessories you use during your BDSM scene, the more realistic it becomes for both of you!
Keep these tips in mind to ensure your first BDSM night will be the first of many in the future.
