Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?
I would describe myself as quiet and laid back, but just until I get know you or feel comfortable with someone. I joined the Navy in 1988, a year after graduating from HS and retired in 2008. I am know in the sales business, divorced, sharing custody of our son, and love my mustache & goatee.
When did you first realize you were into bondage?
As a teenager, maybe around the age of 15. I would see women tied up on TV and get aroused. Also I would stay at my Aunt and Uncle’s house I would stay overnight sometime and one night found her drawer of scarves and used them to blindfold, gag, and tie myself up.
How you best describe yourself and why? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn.
I would describe myself as a switch. It seems my submissive side is more prominent right now, but learning how to be a good/proper dominant. Nothing feels better to me as women allowing me to restrain them or have them restrain me in many different ways, using various items as blindfolds or gags; and not forgetting the use of various vibrating or arousal toys.
Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (Please elaborate)
Tough question because bondage goes into both sides, it depends on the mood, feeling, or desire at that moment or time. To answer the question fairly, I would say more emotionally because you and your partner, playmate, spouse, or significant other to have a dual bond of enjoyment when together or in a group dynamic. Yes there is physically when tied up or restrained, but the stronger arousal comes from seeing, hearing, smelling, and touch of bondage then and letting the human body take over from there.
What does BDSM mean to you: is it a lifestyle, a diversion, or something else?
BDSM means to me a great lifestyle, whether practiced 24/7 or when one can experience, it does not matter. I strongly feel it is never a diversion or perversion. To others it could be something else, and would like to hear their inputs.
My 1st Ex-Wife was not into it at all, which created one of many things that drew us apart. Later on, the subject was not brought with my girlfriends between meeting my 2nd wife up until I felt it might have developed into a lasting relationship. On the other hand, my 2nd wife was into it, which created a great life for a good/long period, until we divorced in 2012. With the 21st century now upon us an alternative lifestyle more accepting, talked about, and acted on, I am hoping to find more women into bondage easier and more accepting.
Please briefly describe your first bondage experience.
Besides myself experiences as teenager I would say when I first met my 2nd wife. Being in the Navy we met writing each other for about 6 months finding out almost everything about each other. When we physically met we had great regular sex for a few days and then she said “I want you to tie me up, blindfold me, and tape my mouth shut.” The last few days of us being together was nothing but terrific.
What was your best bondage experience?
It was when I got creative in my bondage experiences by forcing my wife to remove all her clothes, bra, and panties in front of me. I laid her on the bed tying her hands to the bedpost, blindfolding her a scarf, then putting on a shower cap on her and wrapping duct tape around it.From there I had a stone hard erection that I used to rub on her pussy without inserting at first and using vibrating toys.
What is the most creative safe word you have ever used?
What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?
Mutual understanding, desiring it, safety; and pleasure from experiencing it. Never allowing the outside or fetish world make you feel it is wrong or perverted.
What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?
Talk about with others to make yourself feel comfortable. Do research via the web on BDSM and the various forms of it. Never force anyone into doing it. Practice safety and never take for granted that nothing bad can ever happen. Look for groups within your city or state to meet others into this wonderful world of having fetishes to practice safely.
What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from sub-shop.com and why?
The two different types of blindfolds, bondage tape, and ankle/wrist cuffs I have purchased. Because your products are tested first, are durable, and the daily sales you have of them and other products.
What is the one sensual fantasy you haven’t lived out yet that you are excited to try?
To have a woman or women use a strap-on on me.
What’s your favorite knock-knock joke?
I do not have one.
What is Eskimo ice?
When the penis is removed from the partner, and is immediately replaced with a Popsicle or something frozen, without the knowledge of the partner.