Meet Robert

Please tell us a little bit about yourself–How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?

I am an early divorced forties male who owns his own business.

When did you first realize you were into bondage?

I knew from an early age I was into bondage, always playing games that involved other kids being tied up (always females).I used to love watching cop shows from the 70's and would wait for the damsel in distress scene.Growing up I found it difficult to discuss my feelings with anyone else, so I just kept them in. It wasn't till I was 21 that I tried to introduce bondage into a relationship.Then again at 23 in another one and needless to say, both times my ideas went down like a lead balloon! I started to feel I was abnormal but 4 years later, I married. I never once brought up the subject with my wife and 4 years later my feelings were really playing with my mind.At the age of 32 I decided to see a shrink that was the best thing I've ever done. He assured me my feelings were normal and that I was too. I left my wife 1 year later and then this is when my life began.

How you best describe yourself and why? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn

I am dominant at work and also in the bedroom. I never get how people who are in professional positions like mine prefer to be submissive in their personal lives. It just doesn't compute with me.

Please briefly describe your first bondage experience

My first bondage experience only involved a pair of handcuffs, which is something I don't really like as bondage apparel. My bondage life has progressed from there and I'm still single but have 2 regular 'friends' who I have bondage fun with.Amy is 30 and we both love role-play and bondage.We can have 6-8 hour sessions that will involve up to 5 different scenarios.She is always the one who ends tied up & gagged.A typical scenario may be I break into an office or one where she is an under cop on a drug deal that gets caught out with no help.For me, sex is never a part until the final role play.Sarah who I also enjoy time with, does exactly the same thing but she really enjoys a good spanking which was something I never thought I liked until she told me she really fancied it.After trying it, I enjoyed it very much, but honestly believe that was because I had a very willing partner.Amy & I will also start role plays outside the house which may involve me pretending to be her taxi but really have other ideas on my agenda once I've got here in the car.

What was your best bondage experience?

I couldn't really say what my best bondage experience has been as I've now had many but really enjoy when the door bell or phone rings and I have someone in bondage(I love using she's a bit tied up right now line).One good one was when a repairman came around whilst I had Sarah bound spread eagled to the bed. While he worked away in the kitchen I went back and forwards to keep an eye on her.

What is the most creative safeword you have ever used?

Safe words are something else I don't get as I always use a gag of some sort, so we opt for signs. In role-play it's very easy as someone will just stop acting.

What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?

My only advice to anyone starting out in BDSM is that I find trust is the most important thing and the more you can trust someone the better the experience will be.

What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from sub-shop.com and why?

I use mainly rope and Velcro cuffs for bondage & a variety of ball gags, microfoam tape (my fav) & cloth/silk gags.