Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?
I work in the IT field. I play video games (WOW, DOOM, FALLOUT4), I go to the movies, go over to friends houses and play card/board games (Magic the Gathering, Cards against humanity)
When did you first realize you were into bondage?
I’m not sure when I realized I was interested in bondage exactly, I was always kind of into it. I never really watched regular porn when I was growing up; I only have BDSM type movies available. So that may have influenced me from the start.
How you best describe yourself and why? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn.
I identify as a switch, its fun to both give and receive.
Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)
Emotional side is a huge part, if you and your partner love and trust each other its one of the best feelings in the world. When you engage in these kinky acts, and they know what little things turn you on and drive you crazy, they can turn the intensity of a session up.
Were lovers accepting of your interest in bondage?
I honestly never met anyone that wasn’t open to the idea of acting kinky in the bedroom. Some nights I was in charge, other nights they were in charge. Some people wanted to be tied up more than others and some more wanted to be spanked more.
Please briefly describe your first bondage experience.
It was with this sub girl and she wanted to be degraded which is a normal kink most people have. She had a list of appropriate terms I could degrade her with and a list of things she wanted me to do to her. For the first hour I verbally degraded her and spanked her. After that I took her outside (she lived in a secluded spot out in the woods) and tied her to an old tree; arms above her head and legs spread. I gagged her, blindfolded her, put earmuffs on her and left her like that for a good half hour. Then I tied a vibrator to her and well (censured)…then we had sex against the tree. Afterwards I made her crawl on her hands and knees back to the house.
What was your best bondage experience?
I just purchased a spreader bar and we decided to use it. My girlfriend used it on me first; it fell as she was spanking me, which was awesome, digging her nails in. Then she asked if it was ok to play with my butt and that’s when she found out about the male prostate massage. After milking for about 20 minutes, she finished me off with a hand job/ prostate stimulation.
What is the most creative safeword you have ever used?
We use the traffic method Green Yellow and Red Light for when people are getting close to there limit
TRUST, if you can trust your partner then you have nothing to worry about.
What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?
Talk with your partner/lover about it, say "hey, I want to try some stuff in the bedroom" Most people have kinky things they want to try sexually but are to afraid to ask or to embarrassed to talk about. Honest and open communication is the best thing for any relationship.
What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from sub-shop.com and why?
ALL OF IT :D