Beginner’s Guide to Orgasm Control

If you never tried orgasm denial during your sexual encounters before, you are missing out! By performing this practice, the submissive or slave is not allowed to reach an orgasm without the dominant’s or master’s approval. This can get very intense for both of them and the sexual energy rises during the BDSM scene.

What is orgasm control?

Orgasm control in BDSM is when the dominant decides to tease the submissive and increase their sexual pleasure only to deny them the right to orgasm when they get close to the peak. As soon as the submissive gets close enough to an orgasm, all the stimulations are stopped. They are left to endure the desire to climax for as long as possible unless their master allows them to act on it.

How is orgasm control done?

The ability to orgasm becomes more like a reward than a right for the submissive. This is one of the reasons why most submissives enjoy erotic sexual denial so much. Most of the times, the submissive is tied while the dominant stimulates them and is in total control of the situation. The feeling of helplessness induced by bondage and the intense stimulation while a control system is in place creates a high level of sexual frustration. As a result, it intensifies the power of a possible climax at the end of the BDSM scene based on orgasm control. However, there should be a compromise between the submissive and the dominant when it comes to the length of time for the control, the tools and accessories used for stimulation and the restraint system agreed upon by both of them. As the scheme is put into practice, the submissive will endure intense sexual pressure brought on by a series of stimulations and will not be released into a strong orgasm unless the dominant allows it. The whole scenario will be under the dominant’s supreme will. Such a practice makes the submissive appreciate the orgasm more and the dominant will have a stronger feeling of power and control which is very important to them.

What are needed in orgasm control?

Bondage gear should come in handy during such a scene. All the accessories and restraining systems the dominant can use to control their submissive should be readily available. The most common way to perform an erotic sexual denial is by eliminating all the devices, accessories and toys to lead the submissive into intense sexual satisfaction, everything can proceed to their climax. In this aspect, chastity belts are very useful. They can be applied on submissives of both genders since the outcome is the same regardless of sexual category.

What are sissies?

Sissies are known to be one of the most wanted submissives due to their humble nature and high obedience level. If the submissive happens to be a sissy, then the orgasm control is usually more intense. The frustration is higher because the entire BDSM scene is combined with humiliation, both physically and verbally, thus increasing the sensations for both partners. They can be ridiculed, while they enjoy every moment of it. This sort of fetish might take some training especially for the submissive since they are expected to refrain from their desire to have an orgasm under the dominant’s control. To reach this level, it takes practice and a good understanding of this sexual scene.

Lastly, if a submissive indulges in an orgasm even without being allowed to do so by their dominant, then it is considered a “rejected orgasm.” They will be punished for it or the ritual of erotic sexual denial starts all over again, but this time, it will be more extreme.