BDSM can bring your personal relationship and your sexual life to higher levels of excitement and satisfaction but that is not all it does to you. As soon as you join the BDSM community it is hard to ignore the lack of boundaries that it has, except the ones that you establish for yourself, of course, which are subjective to each BDSM enthusiast.
You and your partner are free to experience any fantasy that you might have, at all levels of pain and pleasure that you might be tempted to enjoy and with the limits that you are comfortable with. This will help you discover your sexual personality and reach new sexual levels. It will also help you heal your personality and psychological issues, which we all have. Some people prefer to talk with a therapist while others might find their answers and relief during an intense BDSM session. When you are part of a BDSM scene, you release your inner self and drop your social self for a couple of hours somewhere, where it doesn’t influence your sexual encounter with its judgements. You might be the dominant type of partner and if you had a rough day or you are going through a frustrating period of time in your life, a session with your submissive is all you need to release all that energy and go on with a calm and rational attitude. Experiencing control over your submissive, by spanking them, whipping them or offering them a session of forced orgasm or denied orgasm using certain devices such as vibrators or chastity belt, can make you feel empowered not only in your sexual life but also in your daily life. This will
bring you the confidence you need to move on like a champion and understand that you are in control of most things that go on in your life. Things can go in a similar way for the submissive partner. A session in which someone else is in charge and controls them, even if they feel used and sexually enjoyed by their dominant, might be all they need to relax their mind and be ready to take care of their daily life in a better, stronger way. A submissive during a BDSM scene is not necessarily a submissive in their daily life. Usually this is a side of them that they didn’t get the chance to explore but they need to explore in order to feel balanced and at peace. No one needs to be in control all the time, or controlled all the time and a submissive finds themselves in such a position. Whatever role you choose to follow, a good BDSM session helps you open your sexuality, explore your level of intimacy and heal your personal issues that are specific and subjective to each one of us. However, this might not be an obvious effect so it will probably take time to understand and realize all the benefits that a BDSM relationship will have on you and your partner equally. Besides the fact that it will heal your personal issues it will also heal and empower your relationship.
Couples who try BDSM sexual experiences are so much more connected and their level of trust in each other is so much higher due to the fact that they have seen each other in unique situations and relied on each other in even extreme ones. Especially if we talk about edge play or impact play, two types of BDSM games that need to be controlled by the dominant, and their level of intensity can be so specific to each scene depending on the partners. Most often than not, the level of intensity depends on the issues that the partners involved in the scene have or the issues of the relationship that they share and the intensity will change along with the intensity of those psychological aspects.
