Uses of Collars in BDSM
Collars are a way of demonstrating a commitment between partners in the BDSM community. In that sense they symbolize the commitment between couples, like a wedding or formalized union; they are saying ‘I am yours’ just that instead of a ring around a finger, it is a collar in a neck. As a matter of fact, they are compared and have the same significance as a marriage in the vanilla world. Basically a collar is the highest level of commitment and it is never taken lightly between people, it is the real deal.
So, there are several types of collars out there; usually the dominant partner will choose the collar for their partner. The collar of protection is generally given when their partner has been a victim of an abusive relationship, but sometimes the collar of protection sometimes is also given after the partner has left a failed relationship. The idea behind this type of collar is for the person who has suffered to know their partner is protected and no one can approach them without asking permission first from their dominant partner. When this happens, the person will be able to heal in her or his own time, knowing their partner will protect them no matter what; it should provide them with a sense of security so they are not worried with any form of harm. One more thing you should know is usually expert dominants offer that kind of protection, so a lot of people recur to them when they need it.
On the other hand, the training collar is made to symbolize the submissive being trained. Generally the submissive has a black leather collar with several ring attachments. In this case, the training collar doesn’t signify a bond between the person wearing it and the person who puts it on, it simply means that the person wearing it is a submissive in training. The idea behind this is for the submissive to feel the power they will be surrendering to the dominant that trains them; basically the collar signifies the power exchange. This type of collar is very helpful when it comes to communicating to the submissive they are doing something wrong. For instance, if the submissive is not behaving properly the dominant can pull on the leash that is attached to the collar for them to behave themselves.
The collar of consideration is delivered when the dominant wants for someone to be their submissive or slave. When the dominant offers a collar of consideration and the person accepts it, it translates to them not finding another dominant. This type of collar should be worn every hour of the day because it serves as a reminder of the connection between the dominant and the submissive. I should mention that in some parts of the BDSM community, this collar doesn’t really have any use because some people prefer to simply give the collar of ownership right away. Think about the collar of ownership like a kind of engagement ring.
And lastly we have the highest form of compromise: the collar of ownership. This type of collar is given when the training has been completed successfully, and only if the submissive and the dominant want to take the relationship to the next level. Keep in mind this is like a wedding ring, so a collar of ownership is not meant to be taken lightly. Their significance is so big there are usually collaring ceremonies when this type of collar is offered. And if for some reason down the line the submissive wants to leave the relationship, they should return the collar to their previous dominant or master.
So as they say: ‘If you liked it, then you shoulda put a collar on it’ wink*
