Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you describe your everyday vanilla life?
I am in a position of power and control in the finance/accounting profession. My days typically involve making numerous decisions, which affect operations, profit and loss;also, the well being and continued success of the business and people that work there.
When did you first realize you were into bondage?
When I was 17. At first it was just an idea of something to try with my girlfriend. Then I found out there was a whole lifestyle and culture behind it. It is not a 24/7 thing for me but an interesting way to enjoy adult company and make sexual relations anything but vanilla!
I am Switch since I have been in both roles, but the majority of my interactions have been as a Dominant and I use that term very loosely. I am more the leader than a Dominant in the context of the BDSM portion of my relationships.
Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)
It is physical, mental, and emotional. The sights, sounds, and sensations all affect the body, mind, and soul and helps draw myself and partner(s) to a level of pleasure that I do not think is possible in the strictly vanilla sexual encounters/relationships that the majority of people experience. This is not to say vanilla sex is not fun, however it doesn't give the same level of pleasure as bondage and BDSM related sexual encounters.
Were lovers accepting of your interest in bondage?
Yes, since most of my relationships have been with individuals with either an interest or some experience in tune bondage realm.
Please briefly describe your first bondage experience.
My first bondage experience was with my first girlfriend. We experimented with handcuffs that a friend of mine (female and very open) had given me as a joke. My girlfriend was in bed and she didn't know that I had them. She liked to be held down by the wrists, so I started to do that but slid her hands close together on the headboard so I could hold both and proceeded to then snap the cuffs on her, securing her to the bed. I also blindfolded her and we proceeded to enjoy the rest of the encounter with her like that. The next day we decided to go to the local hardware store and bought some rope and then enjoyed the rest of the weekend with her secured in rope.
What was your best bondage experience?
My best bondage experience was a very kinky threesome that involved myself, my current girlfriend and another person from a popular kink site. There was lots of rope, ball gags, and other toys many of which purchased from Sub-Shop (gratuitous plug) that were enjoyed by all parties.
What is the most creative safeword you have ever used?
The most creative has been Fragglerock. But of course with the gag play we have physical cues that are also used. Luckily though I know my partner well enough where the line of pleasure and pain blurs.
What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?
Losing yourself in the moment. Opening up your mind to the experience since the largest sex organ is between your ears and not your legs.
What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?
Read, go to munches, seek out guidance, and be safe. This is about pleasure and not abuse. Anyone who brags about the pain or torment they inflict is generally not safe in my opinion.
What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from sub-shop.com and why?
The varied selection of rope and gags are my favorite products, but honestly I have not been disappointed in any of the purchases made. The purchases were easy, the selection varied, and the service excellent.
What is the one sensual fantasy you haven’t lived out yet that you are excited to try?
A consensual kidnap fantasy.
What’s your favorite knock-knock joke?
Not a fan of knock-knock jokes, sorry :(