Please tell us a little bit about yourself. How would you be describe your everyday vanilla life?
I’m a 6-foot, 180-pound, 40 something, dark, sex on two legs of a man! Well that’s how my little one (wife) describes me. Now on to a more serious note, I’m a confident (not cocky), loving, caring, family man. My everyday vanilla life is typical, but not predictable. I work for and serve in a vital role for the surrounding community.
When did you first realize you were into bondage?
I would say probably at the age of 14. No, there isn’t any specific psychological or physical (damage) reason as most experts try to use as why it’s a part of me, but I thoroughly enjoy bondage and can briefly describe how I discovered it. During one of my first sexual experiences, while helping my lover quickly remove her clothing, I forgot to unbutton the cuffs of her top before trying to pull it off. The more she struggled to remove it, the more turned on her struggles were making me. I noticed how having her hands immobilized was the perfect opportunity to tease certain erogenous areas of her body. She eventually gave up and really started enjoying herself and the rest is history.
How you best describe yourself and why? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn.
Other than a physical description kitten provided earlier, I would definitely describe myself as Dominant. I have in the past, due to what I thought was required of me as social norms, tried to not allow the Dominant side show no matter what type of relationship it was. The one thing I did notice about myself was how I differed it was from my mates when considering the opposite sex. Nearly all of them would allow themselves to become vulnerable to the whims of those they found attractive. I however, vowed I wouldn’t allow myself to be manipulated without knowing it was happening. Yes, this meant that I would possibly miss out on meaningless sex at times, but I couldn’t allow myself to just turn off what I now know as my dominate side.
Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)
Definitely both: To have my slave before me in her submissive pose anticipating the bondage I decide upon, and seeing the admiration, appreciation and physical response once bound both warms my heart in a way I never grow tired of and stiffens my body in a ways I’ve never experienced! The ultimate pleasure that results in leg shaking, almost paralyzing waves of orgasms she experiences before I’ve even begun to experience my own “biological” physical pleasure, both makes my heart swell and so on edge just a touch in the right place would be a messy situation!
Were lovers accepting of your interest in bondage or Dominance?
The best way to describe this is to say yes, as long as it was no more than what I consider G-PG rated in the lifestyle. If I approached anything considered PG-13 then that was going too far. In my day to day I have handcuffs available to me anytime I need them and use them when needed. That being said handcuffs, a tie, and a small length of rope were about as far as it went. It wasn’t until I met my current submissive that I truly was able to explore that side of my sexuality and that also goes for her. It has been one of the most rewarding and freeing experiences in both our lives. We both have talked at length about how our vanilla lives left us both wanting, no, needing more and could never quite place what was missing. We both had lightly played around with bondage and D/s with others, but were never able to fully experience what we do now. We both knew shortly after meeting one another and during our love making we kept adding different elements of the lifestyle until one day, I collared her as mine and it has just gotten even better since then.
What was your best bondage experience?
I would say it was the night that I officially collared my little one. After a very romantic dinner at a beautiful restaurant and presenting her with the collar just after dinner, we made it home very quickly! My dominance and her submissiveness blossomed that night. We both felt completely free to be who we were meant to be. Knowing the protocol, following it without question, and riding the emotional and physical high lead to mind blowing, finger and toe curling multiple orgasms for us both!
What is the most creative safeword you have ever used?
It’s the current one my slave and I have agreed upon. We both are fans of the Indianapolis Colts and the Kentucky Wildcats. Our safe word is BLUE! It’s a word we’re not likely to forget. Our “yellow” is gray because, as my kitten said, it’s the next step down from blue.
What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item fromsub-shop.com and why?
The Luxe PVC Posture Collar and matching ankle and wrist cuffs set. My slave enjoys the feel and restraint of the PVC, and I enjoy the durability and the transparency of the material.
What is the one sensual fantasy you haven’t lived out yet that you are excited to try?
I actually have two. The first would be to add another female submissive to our playroom, and command and control the two submissives to play with one another to bring me pleasure. Pleasing both their desire to be with the other, and both the physical and physiological pleasure it would bring to me to watch and play as well! The other fantasy is to have my submissive submit to both me and another Dominant man. Both of us directing her to please us both, knowing how giving us both pleasure would heighten her pleasure to a level never experienced before! Eventually leading to a much needed DP and having us sending her flying again and again all night long!
What’s your favorite knock-knock joke?
What is Eskimo ice?
I have no idea, and I lived in Alaska for three years. Please if anyone who reads this and can answer it, please enlighten me. If you do I will be able to sleep better at night.