Sexual Intercourse in the Golden Years

Sex is a wonderful thing, I’m sure you know that by now, wink*. But did you know that a good sex life could add years to your life? Every age and period where you practice it has his benefits and his disadvantages, so it’s important to know what to expect to get the most out of the good things. As you age, it’s normal to have some reservations about it, especially because there are more challenges involved after 50, but there’s no reason why you shouldn’t enjoy a happy sex life. Remember sex drive, sexual urges and desires basically spring eternal.

Like I said, every age will have its differences. Obviously sex at 60 or 70 will not be the same as when you where 30, but in some cases it can actually get better. For one, you will have more experience and that is always welcomed, wink*. For that reason you probably are more aware about the things you like and enjoy in bed in a way that you can’t have when you are younger. Another good thing about aging? More confidence and self-awareness; you care less about what others think about you and how you are perceived. This means you can just relax and enjoy the ride.

Certain studies have shown that people actually feel more confident about themselves and their bodies when they are 60 something rather than when they are in their 20’s. Those emotions can transform themselves into more self-power and a sense of reinvigoration. What scares some people as they get older is that sexual experiences will be different and their sex lives will change; just embrace those changes (not every change is for the bad! Many changes are the opposite!) And keep in mind there’s no reason to slow down your sexual experiences unless you want to do so.

The fact that you know exactly what you want is a great thing, but you must always be open to experiment and try some new things that may be novel for you. Just as well, if you need any medical help because you are not feeling like yourself sexually, by all means go ahead and do it! The sooner you find out what’s going on, the sooner you will be having pleasurable experiences. And that reminds me; the fact that women can’t get pregnant doesn’t mean you will have to stop protecting yourself. Remember, sexually transmitted diseases have no age, so you should always be careful about protection.

Communication with your partner will always be key no matter the age, so that is something you should practice. Whether is a new or and old partner, talking about how you two are feeling, your desires and needs will always be the best idea and will bring you closer. Remember to always keep it honest and be open to discussing things. If your partner wants to try something new, be open to their ideas! Sexuality and intimacy comes in many different forms and you may be surprised to find new things and experiences.

Being older generally means having more time to focus on yourself instead of children and/or work. This is a very good thing because you probably will be able to have more time to play, if you know what I mean. You can take some time to do more romance, plan more dates and just to enjoy more intimate experiences, like having a massage or taking a bath together.

Remember that sexuality and intimacy do not always have to mean intercourse; it can be touching each other, pleasuring one other, sensory experiences and general touching. Pleasure can come (it will, wink*) in many different forms.

You can experiment and try different positions you have never done before and change your routine. Sometimes the little changes make a big difference; try switching the time when you have sex and even the place where you usually do it. As you get older, getting in the mood might take longer, so more foreplay will probably be expected it (yay!). You can focus on oral sex and masturbation as well. For women, additional lubrication will sometimes be needed and if erectile dysfunction is a problem for men, consult with your doctor. In the meantime, focus on positions with the woman on top because hardness is less important. Find ways to make sexuality in the golden years work and remember, older is wiser wink*.