How to Balance Romance and BDSM

As intense as BDSM fetishes might be, they are still strongly connected with the level of romance in your relationship. Once you achieve a balanced connection, then you and your partner will be ready to discover new ways of enjoying and appreciating each other. You have many ways to indulge in a BDSM scene, by being the dominant or a submissive along with performing different activities and fetishes. However, one thing applies to all of them: acting.

BDSM is close to being an actor or an actress. But it is not because what you enjoy with your partner is fake. It is part of role play meant to give you pleasure and sexual satisfaction. None of it is part of your daily reality. BDSM practices are symbols for deeper desires and needs. They come to life in certain fetishes and they find their fans among the BDSM enthusiasts. If you are a dominant and you want to have a forced orgasm session with your submissive to show your thirst for power and desire to control, you can satisfy both when you indulge in a BDSM scene.

Having a vibrator or a dildo in your hand, applying nipple clamps on your partner and stimulating them to an extreme level until they have one orgasm after another, will bring you such intense satisfaction and bring you closer with your partner. After such an intense BDSM session, the level of romance between you and your partner naturally increases. Hence, you might feel more in love than ever before because you will want to compensate the control and sexual abuse with a loving and caring behaviour. Both types of interaction will be equally enjoyed and needed by your partner for a healthy relationship. However, you can also show and express your romance during the BDSM scene by way of verbal stimulation and gestures such as kisses or touches you know your partner will find romantic. It is actually very exciting to kiss your slave in a romantic way while using a nice flogger on them and you keep asking them who is their master. The mixture of rough sexual practices and romantic approaches creates a unique sexual energy. You will want to entertain and enjoy it for a longer time as your partner will feel loved and controlled at the same time.

However, certain aspects should be considered if you want to balance out the BDSM scene and the romance at the same time. First, you have to follow the scenario and adapt your romantic behaviour to it rather than the other way around. It is much easier to introduce a little bit of romance to a rough and intense BDSM scene than it is to introduce a BDSM practice such as spanking to a romantic sexual encounter. Both of them have the element of surprise. But the outcome will not be the same. The wrong BDSM move or one completely unexpected can ruin the sexual encounter by shocking your partner and killing their sexual mood. This can’t happen the other way around. Once you learn how to control and enjoy a BDSM scene and sprinkle some romantic aspects on it, you are set for an exciting sexual relationship and a great personal one as well to make your partner feel more connected to you, during the scene and after it. The aftercare session is also very important and a good time to show your romantic side towards your partner. Remember, a well-done aftercare session showing your love and care for your significant other will pave the way for more sexual experiences in your future together. Best of all, it makes them feel more confident to try new fetishes with you.