Beating the Score – How to Last Longer in Bed
Premature ejaculation is a very common problem for men. Sometimes it seems you have tried every trick in the book but you still finish too quickly. Doctors say most men experience premature ejaculation at some point in their lives. While most people don’t have actual penetrative sex for as long as you think, you may still want to improve your stamina time.
If you are one of those men, do keep in mind the duration of the penetrative sex shouldn’t really be the deciding element when it comes to ‘good sex’. There are a million other factors to take into consideration here. So you shouldn’t beat yourself up over your current duration. But you can always do something to help yourself a little bit.
You can resolve or improve your problem in two ways, through physical and psychological treatments. The physical treatments focus on what you are feeling during sex while the psychological treatments put emphasis on your mind, this means taking into account all your concerns, stress or other factors when it comes to your premature ejaculation problem. (By the way, it is always best to try these techniques alone before you do them while having actual sex.)
If you feel your problem is related to the pressure of pleasing your partner, you may try getting your lady to finish off first. Remember: there is a reason why gentlemen finish last. If you make her come first, whether it is with a toy, your finger, or via oral sex, you may get rid of the pressure to perform and satisfy her enough during penetrative sex. Taking this weight off your shoulders can make a big difference when it comes to finishing fast.
Another method doctors recommend is using biofeedback. This falls under the notion you are able to regulate the response of your body to the physical sensations it is experiencing. While there are plenty of types out there, the most common when it comes to dealing with this particular problem is the popular edging method. Nothing else could be hotter than bringing yourself almost to the point of orgasm, then stopping all sexual stimulation until you have all those emotions under control. This technique can help you control your orgasmic response by educating your brain. The good news is you can start doing this right away; just grab some lube and start practicing!
The other biofeedback technique you can try is ‘the squeeze’. The theory behind this is you can last longer in bed if you push the blood out of the penis (makes sense given how erections work) and lowering the sexual tension. When you feel your orgasm coming up, just stop right away and give the head of the penis a squeeze just below the tip. You should put some pressure with your thumb and forefinger and concentrate it on the urethra (it is the tube along the underside of your member).
The next thing you could try is using a de-sensitizer or a ‘local anesthetic’. The idea is to apply it to decrease the sensation on your penis so it will last longer. However, you should be careful with the amount you use, otherwise, your partner could also get some of it, which obviously is not the idea. Another thing is, these products could make it harder to, well, stay hard while you are having sex, so once again be careful about using the right amount. ‘Extended pleasure’ condoms are another product you can try. These condoms have a thicker material and tend to act as de-sensitizers. So, it could help you avoid premature ejaculation.
As a last resort, you could always turn to an expert. If you feel you have tried several techniques and nothing seems to work or you want some guidance in utilizing said techniques, then don’t hesitate to consult with a specialist. You could turn to an urologist who will treat your condition or refer you to someone else who can help.