Why Some Women Avoid Sex

Is your partner avoiding having sexual intercourse as often as you would like to or as often as they used to enjoy it? If that is the case, identifying her reasons might not be so easy. Superficial ones like headaches, or too much stress to deal with at work, can function for a temporary period of time. But if such excuses become the norm, you should start wondering more serious what is causing this kind of sexual change. Sometimes, the reasons are not grave while other times they can be quite important, and you shouldn’t underestimate them. Here are some of the most common reasons why women tend to avoid intercourse without explaining it.

1. There is a lack of intimacy

Intimacy is important for both partners in a couple, however, women tend to connect the level of intimacy with their sex drive more than men do. If there is a lack of intimacy between you and your partner, chances are she will not be so sexually open and she will not have a high sex drive. Intimacy is not always about sex. Sessions of love and cuddling are important as well as kisses and small gestures that will assure her of your true feelings. Especially if you are a BDSM enthusiast and you enjoy intense sexual sessions of bondage, spanking, whipping or even edge play. After such sessions, aftercare is important to maintain the emotional balance in your relationship. Without this balance your sex life will be damaged and even your relationship.

2. Sex is painful for her

If there is a medical condition, your partner might not be so comfortable during sexual intercourse and that might have nothing to do with you. Some women experience different levels of pain during intercourse and even during sexual stimulation. This makes them avoid sex and most of the times without explaining such a behaviour. Also, your girl might be embarrassed to mention that they feel pain during your intimate sessions like most women who experience such a condition. The pain can be due to many reasons and you should consider this before jumping to more personal conclusions. Suggest her a medical check and be gentle about it since it is one of the most delicate subjects for women.

3. She suffers of anxiety

Anxiety is a disease of modern age and it can come in many forms. Some of them affect our daily life, our work and social life while others have direct consequences on our sex life. Your partner might feel uncomfortable during sexual intercourse due to several reasons such as fear of pain, lack of trust, lack of self confidence or fear of getting pregnant. While some of these might be under your control, others are not. If she is afraid to get pregnant you can use a birth control method for instance. Whatever her reason might be, a good communication is essential to discover it. Talk about your feelings and ask her about hers before and after intercourse and as often as you can. Getting to know each other at an intimate level is important in order to increase the trust needed for a healthy relationship and a happy and fulfilling sex life. Try to be understanding and even if you don’t relate to her anxiety reasons don’t take them personal and don’t judge them. You might also consider suggesting professional help if she develops a chronic behaviour along with the lack of sex drive.

Women tend to be complicated at times but that never happens without a deep reason that needs to be discovered. Trying to understand and support your partner is essential for both your relationship and sex life, in all the aspects that you need satisfaction in. Usually, when one has a problem inside a couple, the problem becomes one of the couple and you should work as team to overcome obstacles. Lack of sexual interest is rarely a constant condition and in most cases, it can be fixed easily if you pay the attention that is required.