Why Women Might Feel Sad after Sex

Women tend to be a lot more emotional than men and their sexual life is no exception to this general rule either. But some side effects of a good and intense sexual encounter might be hard to explain. Especially when they catch you off guard. One of these side effects are those sad and hard to understand moments that some women have after an orgasm. While their male partners might feel satisfied and accomplished, and even fall peacefully asleep, women tend to have an opposite reaction. But why this happens? Let’s see some of the most common reasons women might feel sad after sex!

1. They weren’t emotionally prepared for it

In the heat of the moment, a woman might not have the time to analyze if she is fully ready for a sexual experience with her partner or not. This is particularly important for relationships that are at their beginning phase. And even more for sexual affairs that lack a certain level of emotional connection between the partners. When she is excited she is involved in the sexual encounter and has one goal: to reach sexual satisfaction and put her craves at ease. This attitude is specific to younger women more than to mature ones, because they are still discovering what they want out of a relationship as well as they are discovering their sexuality. As a result of this inner struggle, a woman might experience feelings of sadness after a sexual intercourse and this kind of reaction might have a negative impact on her intimate relationship with her lover.

2. They suffer of postcoital dysphoria

Postcoital dysphoria is actually a condition that some women experience naturally, and it can be tricky to treat. Also known as PCD, this is a biological condition that can be experienced by both men and women, even if it is found more often in women. During sex, a woman releases a lot of hormones especially dopamine and prolactin and that can make her feel very vulnerable and emotional. As a direct consequence of this process, the sadness and crying comes naturally and it is not necessarily a sign of sorrow but more like a biological effect. After reaching a climax, a woman’s body suffers several simultaneous changes. Her dopamine level drops and her prolactin level increases. Prolactin is a hormone that’s huts down sexual desire and can cause feelings of sadness that might seem hard to explain.

3. They lack connection with their partner

When a woman is not emotionally connected with her partner, there are more consequences than just the cry and sadness state after a sexual encounter. Women need satisfaction at more levels and not just the physical one. They might feel guilty for engaging in a sexual experience with a partner that they are not in love with or they might even feel used if this is the case. In such situations, the reaction of sorrow comes as an effect of the poor connection she has with her partner and can even lead to stronger consequences if such a relationship continues. Not all women are meant to enjoy a “friends with benefits” kind of relationship or a sexual affair.

4. They felt sexually unsatisfied

And finally, the last but the most common reason for moments of sadness and sometimes even ager after a sexual experience, is the lack of sexual satisfaction. This goes for both partners. If the woman might not have reached a climax during the sexual encounter she might feel unhappy and frustrated afterwards. But also, if her partner wasn’t able to have an orgasm she will feel like she wasn’t good enough during the performance. Either way, it is a tricky situation to deal with. This is why using sex toys and stimulators might be the secret to an intense sexual encounter. Use nipple clamps, dildos, even electro-stimulating devices and anal plugs to stimulate both yourself and your lover! Such fetishes and practices will increase the level of pleasure and sexual satisfaction and there will be less chances of facing a frustrating feeling at the end of it.