Your first dildo experience will probably be something to remember for the rest of your life. The first thing you need to know is to always go slow and try it out on your own, even if you are planning on using it with someone else. Once you get the hang of it, the real pleasure starts.
The first thing you need to do is to arouse yourself. Creating the right environment and getting sufficiently aroused are the most important part of the experience. Don’t put a time limit; find some time and start exploring on your own, so if you’re in a hurry, it’s better to wait till you have more time.
When you’re turned on, start by lubing up the dildo and rub it along the genital areas. Focus on the most sensitive zones, like the clitoris, labia, vulva and anus. Go slow and start to penetrate little by little. You can change the angle and how deep you are going to experiment different sensations and forms of pleasure.
A very important part of this process is finding a rhythm that works for you. The good thing about dildos is they are extremely adaptable, so you can basically make them do whatever you want them to do. Depending on what you like, you can go fast and irregular or go for steadier and slower movements.
You can also try different positions. Different positions can make the dildo hit different stops depending on the angle; so don’t be afraid to get on all fours or whatever it is you can think of. The important thing is for you to try new things and discover what is it that makes your toes curl.
A really cool thing to do that many women enjoy is penetration and clitoral stimulation at the same time. You can penetrate yourself with a dildo and stimulate your clitoris with your other hand or you can even use a vibrator to take things further. Using a vibrator also allows you to have your other hand free so if you are a little uncoordinated, this may be the answer, wink*.
If you want to experiment with something different, you can use a long dildo and experiment deep penetration. For some people it can be painful, but for others it can be incredibly pleasurable. The thing here is, the dildo can sometimes hit the cervix and depending on the situation, it can get painful, obviously. But keep in mind you can adjust the length by holding it at shaft instead of the base. And if you are feeling pain, stop right away. Remember the whole point of a dildo is pleasure, never pain!