When you become a parent, your life changes in more than one way, and while the majority of changes are for the best, others might need some adjustments to get used to them. The most major change that might intervene in your routine will be the one regarding your sexual life. Since your time will not be entirely your time with a child around, you will need to adapt to a new schedule and still maintain an interesting sex life with your partner. Let’s look at some tips that will help you keep your sex life just as spicy as it was before you became a parent and help you adjust to this important change in your life.
1. Have a date night
Since your main priority will be your child, you need to squeeze other priorities to have a healthy and happy relationship. Many couples grow apart when they become parents because they forget about each other along the way. This doesn’t mean that you have to neglect your child, not at all. You just have to have a firm schedule that you can respect. Establish a date night with your partner when you leave your child with a family member or a babysitter. Save that night for only the two of you and make it regular, like once a week. During the date night, only focus on each other 
and have an intense sexual encounter to spice up your intimacy and satisfy each other’s sexual needs! If you are into BDSM, you can perform your favourite sex scene during your date night and indulge in all kind of sexual fetishes like spanking, bondage, or intense sexual intercourse and stimulation.
2. Keep having sexual fantasies
Don’t give up your sexual preferences and fantasies just because you became a parent! This is a mistake that many couples do, and it has consequences on the long term. If you are into BDSM, keep performing your dominant or submissive sexual attitude when you get the occasion to be intimate with your lover. Edge play and other kinky BDSM scenes can still be just as hot even if you are a parent, so don’t refrain yourself from expressing your sexuality and please your lover! Your sexual life is separate from your role as a parent, and the sooner you make this separation, the better for your relationship.
3. Pay attention to your partner’s needs
When you become a parent, your main priority is your child and it is normal to be like that. However, don’t forget about your lover’s needs. Make sure you pay attention to their fantasies and sexual needs and find the right time to fulfil them the best you can. If your partner is into a new fetish or wants to try a new sex toy, put that on your “to-do” list as well. If you do that, your partner will feel important and loved, and this will keep your relationship going in the right direction for the future. Moreover, if they come to you with an electro-stimulating device or a new bondage style that they want to experiment, it will be best for both of you to give it a try instead of saying that you have other things to do.
If you keep in mind these three tips and apply them constantly to your relationship, you will have not only a happy partner but also a resistant family! Being a parent is a change that you need to work around without damaging the love and trust that was between you and your lover before this happened. Your sexual encounters will be so much more intense when you enjoy them during your free nights and get away from the daily routine and parenting rituals! Your partner will thank you and feel strongly connected with you if you don’t make them feel less important than they should be.
