Please tell us a little bit about yourself – How would you be describe your everyday vanilla life?
I would consider myself a caretaker. I’m the typical wife and mother with a 9 to 5 job, 5 days a week to help out with finances at home. My husband decided to get into business for himself so we’ve been on a tight budget until his enterprise booms.
I work as a secretary at the beck and call of my boss. When I get home, I attend to the needs of my husband and my son. It’s a tough situation but we manage and live fine.
When did you first realize you were into bondage?
Ever since I could remember, I was always the type of girl who took care of everyone else. I would give and give without thinking of myself. The idea of bondage never occurred to me until recently in our marriage. My husband and I had only experienced vanilla relationships. So, it came as a big surprise to me and my husband when we found out we liked it.
How you best describe yourself and why? Your choices are: Dominant, Submissive, Switch or Fuzzy Rainbow Unicorn.
People who know me would immediately consider me a submissive in a bondage (or even a vanilla) relationship. But as it turns out, I do pretty good as a dominant. Just ask my husband. It was a different feeling to possess such power and control over someone else in the bedroom. Given my nature as a caretaker, I always felt the need to fulfill my partner’s needs before mine. Satisfying myself first never crossed my mind.
Do you feel that your desire for bondage is more physical or emotional? (please elaborate)
I would say it’s both physical and emotional. The chance to control my husband excites me a lot. Seeing him bound, helpless and willing to submit to my commands gave me a rush I never thought possible.
What does BDSM mean to you: is it a lifestyle, a diversion, or something else?
At this time, I would call it something else since I consider us as beginners in the BDSM community. Stumbling upon Sub-Shop.com was a stroke of luck for us as it’s given us a chance to really get into it.
Please briefly describe your first bondage experience as a femdom.
It happened by chance. After a 5-day work week, I always look forward to the weekends for some R&R. Since my husband is busy building his business, I had become accustomed to just spending the time with our son. However, this particular Saturday was different. Our son happened to have a sleepover and my husband decided to stay home after his meeting with a potential client was canceled.
We decided to make a movie date and catch the latest flick of ‘Wonder Woman.’ All the way home, Mark couldn’t stop talking about how much he loved the movie. I was feeling a bit naughty and got to thinking about how I could make the most of the situation. By the time we got home, I put together my plan. I went ahead into the bedroom as Mark made sure all the doors and windows were secured.
By the time he entered the bedroom, I had put on a costume to look like the amazon princess. For my lasso, I found some leftover twine from my craft box. The image stunned my husband at first. But his reaction changed once I said, “Would you say you’re a typical example of your sex?”
He played along and answered, “I'm... above the average.” My response to him, “Prove it!” I commanded him to take off his clothes to show me. Since then, we’ve enjoyed more occasions with my ‘magic lasso’ with him all tied up.
What is your favorite gear, toy or lingerie item from sub-shop.com and why?
I make sure to look the part of the femdom whenever my husband and I want to play. A tight, shiny latex dress paired with kinky boots for my sub to lick clean. Of course, every domme has her favorite toy, mine is a crop that is perfect for my husband’s favorite bondage Pet & Pony Play.
What was your best bondage experience?
I think it would be the first time I used a few different bondage gear at the same time. They were a few of the hot pink leather bondage gear that I ordered from your site! I was already with my boyfriend at the time, and we wanted to try out more and test his limits. It was the first time I used bondage gear not just for sex, but also for aesthetic purposes, and I must say, it really adds a touch of playfulness to sex that makes every scene more exciting. Not to mention that my boyfriend looks so good in hot pink leather! I have a lot of beautiful pictures of him from that session!
Name one actor/actress you would love to get naughty with?
Robert Downey, Jr. while dressed up as the Iron Man. I love his quirkiness. I want nothing more than to gag him as he serves my every bidding.
What is the most creative safe word you have ever used?
Wonder Woman, for nostalgia, since it was our first foray into bondage role play.
What do you feel is most important about the experience of bondage?
Greater intimacy and trust. We’ve learned more about one another than in the years before and after we’ve been married.
What is the one sensual fantasy you haven’t lived out yet that you are excited to try?
In truth, my husband and I discussed the possibility of exploring a threesome. Personally, I would love to try out pegging. The strap-on sets of Sub-Shop.com make it seem so interesting and easy.
Who was the sexiest teacher you ever had?
In my case, it wasn’t the gym teacher. I’m not turned on by a brusque physique. I preferred the brainy types like my Science teacher, Mr. Peterson.
Is there a particular food you would like to use during a sexual experience?
Sushi. I read somewhere about Nyotaimori. I love sushi but my husband hates it. I’ll make him lie down and spread sushi all over his naked body. He has to lay still and wait as I devour every one of them.
What is one thing that NEVER makes you horny?
What is the best advice you would give to someone just starting out with BDSM?
As the saying goes, ‘Don’t knock it until you’ve tried it.’ You can try it once and if you like it, go for it. The experience is worth the risk.
If you were a stripper, what would your name be?
Kitchen Counter, Couch, or on top of the dryer?
Is there anything else you would like to share with us such as advice, thoughts or more knock-knock jokes? We are all ears and ball gags.
Trust one another, communicate openly and always stay safe. Above all, have fun. That’s an order.