New to BDSM – Spanking

Spanking can be extremely fun when done properly; the good news is there are plenty of options for everyone. Spanks are so arousing because they increase blood flow to the area, increasing sensitivity and creating a rush of endorphins (happy hormones). Not to mention, they are great for punishment for those who need a little bit of correcting… wink*

There are plenty of positions that you can try, but you need to know what you are doing. The first thing you need to know is that the person you are spanking should be comfortable and relaxed; otherwise it will not work. The most common positions are the classic over the knee spanking and the lying down on the bed spanking; these are great for short and hard spanks. But if you are looking to hit a place different than the ass cheeks, making your partner stand may be the best choice.

If you want your partner to be as comfortable as possible when you are spanking them, you can make them lie down on the bed or couch. Just make them recline face down on the mattress while you stand and spank him or her. In this position you can add some pillows underneath their hips to make the position even more comfortable and pleasurable. This is definitely the best position if you are starting out with the spanking experience.

Let’s continue with one of the classic ones: the over the knee spanking (OTK, for those well versed in the subject). This one simply is created by placing the person you want to spank laying on their side directly over your knee. If you want to add something extra, you can also effortlessly immobilize one of their arms or legs.

Another classic position is the one when the person bends over. The good thing about this one is that the buttocks and the area on the upper thighs will stretch; this will create a very intense sensation for the person being spanked. While it may take a while to get there, grabbing the ankles is a must for the best possible experience you can imagine.

If you like the idea of being restrained, (or restraining your partner) you can always add that to the mix. This is also very helpful if the person cannot stand still; it could be very dangerous because with all that movement places that are not intended to be hit, can be hit. You can restrain someone to basically any piece of furniture, like the bed, the couch or a chair. Or you can tie their arms together or their legs. If you want to get creative, by all means get creative.

Standing up is also a great position to receive a spanking; it is usually less painful this way, but the downside is you are definitely less relaxed. If you want to try this position, make sure that you are holding on to something, because standing up can really affect how accurate those hits are and that is one of the most important things in spanking.

And lastly, you can always be a bit more adventurous and try some doggy style spanking…. yes, it is as sexy as it sounds wink* This is a great position to put that beautiful ass you love so much on display; and if you are into humiliation play, this is also a great spot to be in. Besides, in this position the muscles on the butt are more stretched out, making the experience a whole lot more powerful.

Before you start spanking make sure to warm up; lightly massage the area and squeeze it to get the blood flowing. Warm up your hands by rubbing them and lightly spank the butt while you combine it with some genital play to prepare your partner for what is to come.